It seems like most HVM do not need to be set up. They can easily meet women so have little need to be set up. I can't help but feel like the men who need to be set up either 1) have some undesirable characteristics hindering their ability to attract women so they need to be set up or 2) look extremely good on paper (e.g. being a CEO) and they want to date extremely attractive women but since none of the single women in their social circles meet they standards, they need to be set up. I don't think both types of men are right for me. Men who are 1 are most likely LV and men who are 2 are probably only into women who look like supermodels.
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Honestly, any time anyone has ever tried to "set me up" with a man, they've always been terrible men. One time it was with a man who didn't necessarily have trouble getting dates, but he was someone who clearly fetishized my body and my ethnicity, and was not looking for something serious. Another time it was with someone who was just...kind of a slob, dealing with some personal issues, and also was burnt out enough at our workplace (in education) that I witnessed or heard of moments of him not doing his job right that were like...why tf would I ever be attracted to someone like this. I also find that even if maybe the man isn't horrifyingly shitty, the person attempting to set us up seems to have a misunderstanding of like, who I am and who I would actually want to date as a partner, and thus recommends me a man that I just wouldn't be into at all, romantically or even sexually.
Personally I just avoid it because I've never actually been set up with someone who seems to be even a halfway decent match. I am willing to concede that maybe it would be different if the person really knows you well and knows what you like but if you search some keywords/phrases for past posts, you will see other women on here also agreeing that you tend to get set up with really low value men.
I’ve been set up many times hahah none of the dudes are ever good on paper and irl. Lol
You're better off finding a guy yourself.
I don't know what to say about it. I guess it boils down to opinion.
My dad's family does this sort of thing, but I've always been opposed to it because they're the wrong religion.
I don't care for societies that only do set-ups and don't allow dating (as much as the notion of dating makes me cringe). It doesn't give you enough opportunities to meet enough men in order to come to a tentative conclusion as to what you like and what you don't like in the opposite sex. With set-ups, I don't feel you get that opportunity. If you only try 2 or 3 men instead of 10 (I'm not talking about sex), you don't get exposed to all the quirks that you didn't realize existed in other men.
Also interested to know about this. I don’t and won’t do online dating, and I meet few to no guys in the wild in my everyday life. So I might be inclined to go along with a set up.
I would be wary of those.