Is a man being bald that big of a turn off?

You felt conflicted so you posted on this forum. I think that's your answer: if you have doubts, that's a no.

I have naturlly thin hair since childhood. You can see my scalp most of the times and I have to really plan my hairstyles and hair care routine around it.

I've always been criticized by my dates for not having beautiful hair. The only men who didn't were the ones who didn't date me or were just acquaintance or friends. Even then some of them still did.

So honestly, I understand how bad it feels to not have great hair, at the same time, I don't care. Because men don't care about your feelings when you don't have long beautiful hair that you don't style like celebrities.

So, men being bald is not big deal, but dump them without guilt if you don't like baldness.

I dated a bald guy for years. Doubt I would again. The key was it must be shaved, otherwise it looks like your grandpa, as you mentioned. This guy needs to keep it tight, but that’s an awkward conversation. Not sure if you’re there yet. Until then, he’s gonna look like a muppet with the tufts of hair along the side of his head. Having the conversation about his hair could be excellent vetting

I'm currently seeing a guy who is bald and shaves his head. He can make it work.

But that's beside the point. If you aren't attracted to a guy because he's bald, don't date him. You are allowed to feel attracted to your partner.

If it bothers you, then you should dump him. I dated a guy who was starting to go bald (patch on the back of his head) and I was smitten- it didn't bother me. I also dated another guy who was completely horseshoe bald and he was younger than the other guy and I got the ick. For me, the progression of baldness matters a lot more than being bald/shaved head. If he's already bald (late 20s early 30s) and he can't rock it- leave him. You'll find a man balding or no who doesn't give you the ick

Chances are there's more about him you don't like, and you're just focusing on the balding bc that's the easiest to identify (give it some time and you'll be able to spot more red flags he threw that build up to the ick over his hair)

Nobody can determine what a turn-off is for you except yourself. At the end of the day, you're the one who has to have sex with him and look at him all the time. One woman's treasure is another woman's trash.

I would be turned off by baldness, but that's just me. You say you "feel a bit disgusted" about his baldness. That sounds like a turn-off to me.

I think if a guy is balding he just has to suck it up and shave his head. He will look younger and better than just doing a combover or whatever they do.

so it’s not a deal breaker for me if a guy is bald. But he had to look good bald

Honestly, yes. Bald men remind me of a few nasty, balding comedians who give me the ick 🤢

Sis you really wanna date some scrote who looks like a oily hairless oompa loompa

if you’re disgusted let yourself be disgusted

there are hot hvm out there and you can have it all

Immature baldness is definitely a turnoff for me. I am usually suspicious about the underlying conditions though.

And, if I can eliminate a certain type of men, I thought it would be for the better and make my choices more streamlined.

As for my friends, they have very different opinions ranging from cold acceptance to plain dislike. But nobody likes them.

For me yeah...I'm not attracted to bald men.

Listen, if you feel disgust looking or being with someone it's time to move on. I've been in the same boat. Dating guys who weren't really my cup of tea, because everyone deserves a chance (🤡)... It's gotten me nowhere and usually ugly guys only act nice(r) because they know they're ugly.

I feel for bald guys, my three brothers all inherited male pattern baldness and started losing their hair as late teens/early 20s. All three are either married or long term committed with children.

But: presentation is very important, no one wants a George from Seinfeld.

Personally, I am not attracted to men that are bald or balding especially the ones that have already lost a lot of hair and refuse to shave it all off or just always hide it with a hat instead (ie "hatfish")

I tell everyone that you need to be physically attracted to your partner first - before you even begin vetting them. it is pickme to entertain men that you don't even like lookswise! you deserve to be with a man that you are attracted to physically and mentally. it needs to be both.

the fact that you posted here - especially the point about how he is starting to remind you of your father being bald - was concerning to me, you're getting "the ick".

other commenters are saying just tell him to shave it off - NAH SIS. do not start telling him how to groom or style himself - it's a slippery slope to him wanting you to style him, dress him, decorate, etc and it's also a slippery slope to him resenting you and using the fact that "you wanted him to shave it off" as ammunition. if he's a scrote he will use this against you and resent you for it - no matter how you say it or suggest shaving it off - he knows you aren't attracted to his balding hairline which he is probably already insecure about.

men that are balding especially that much and refuse to do anything about it tend to be LVM that are very fragile and insecure. it's 2023 and there's a variety of products as well as services that men could try to help their thinning hair - and there's also the option to just shave it all off. women are expected by society to have model bodies, not wrinkle, have great hair, lashes, lips, booties, and boobies, have clear skin, etc. .....and men cant even be arsed to shave it all off or do shit when they're balding. from my experience and friends stories men that lost that much of their hair and dont shave it off often are very insecure and nasty - its his own responsibility to make sure he looks good (get treatment for hair loss or shave it off) not a womans. they often are women hating.

the fact that you're getting the ick is all you need to know to end things. the ick is coming from something else not just his baldness, it's your gut sensing something deeper is off about him, something that he hasn't shown any red flags for yet. heed my warnings and please LISTEN TO YOUR GUT dont wait to see why or get "solid proof" trust yourself.

I've always regretted dating men I'm not physically attracted to. It's ok to have physical standards. You can let him down gently.

Honestly I have always found baldness disgusting. We're mammals, not reptiles! 😂None of the men in my nuclear family ever lose their hair though so I don't see any reason why I should get involved with those sort of defective genetics.

If a man is disgusting or repulsive to you, don’t date him. It’s obvious. Part of a healthy relationship is a good sex life and clearly you don’t wanna fuck men that look old. AKA him. Dump and find a new guy.

It's an absolute no from me. I like thick hair I can run my fingers through. Also, all the men in my family have hair and I'm not spoiling the gene pool.

But, women have different preferences. A friend of mine is super into bald dudes, go figure.

Finally, as another user said, if you're feeling bothered enough to write a post about it...you don't like bald men. Drop him. Or you'll end up in a dead bedroom sooner rather than later.

Like other commenters said, it depends if it’s a turn off to you personally and there is not a completely universal agreement on what makes a man good-looking to a woman.

I love a nice full head of hair and balding or bald would be such a turnoff for me! But I know some ladies like tall men and I dont find a man being tall to be a turn on for me, I’ve been attracted to short men too(but I’m short) and too tall is a turnoff for me. I also like chubby men and most women don’t seem to.

one thing to add is that I am somewhat low income and my teeth were really messed up until I was into my 30’s-and I spent several thousand dollars to get my whole mouth fixed. got my gums evened out with lasers, and got lots of crowns. i did not mind so much spending this much on my mouth and taking a few years to pay it off, because it will last a long time and it had been messing with my self esteem my whole life.

I know a man who has a beautiful head of hair and is very good looking. He spent a similar amount to get hair transplants and you couldn’t even tell, it looks really nice on him.

I know a lot of people can’t afford or think they cannot afford it, but what people spend their money on does indicate their priorities and I just am not attracted to a guy who does not have nice hair. some men may not be born with good genetics for hair, but balding is totally fixable if they prioritize it.

baldness due to testosterone is something men can't avoid. it's kinda ike ageing. you can try and make it better using products, but there's no way to actually stop it from happening. i'll never understand why balding men won't just admit to themselves they are bald and own it. they look much better with no hair in their heads than with a weird patch surrounded by thin dying hair. so to me, completely bald and owning it is ok, but receding lines and patches are a turn off.