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So I'm taking this course with a lvm I used to be friends with back in the day. Turns out he's even more of a lvm, still stuck way back (he hasn't the job he had once said he was looking for, lives with his parents, goes on expensive vacations on their budgets, etc.) whereas I have levelled up even more.
I was being nice to him but he was gushing all over me and negging (his tactic is to argue with me over my standards regarding things that I like as if I'm being unreasonable), then when I said I would sit next to someone else he begged me to stay, then did a bunch of things that don't make much sense. I kinda feel like he's in love with me by the way he acts, and anyway I would like to ignore him from now on as he's become this super desperate person who's draining for me and would probs like my help in stuff as he's extremely incapable.
Thing is, I want to ignore him from now on but don't know how that would go. He's also kind of vindictive, he has very low self-esteem (he's also ugly though that is unrelated).
Any advice?
The only advice i can think of is to become the worlds most boring person(grey rock) and slow fade him. The dude sounds dangerous honestly. The vindictiveness combined with the shameless begging = a man who will punish you for "making" him beg. You have to slowly ignore him. Quickly or slowly, he is going to notice and he's going to lash out like a giant toddler. If you do it slowly, as fucked up as this is, he hopefully will latch on to another target and be distracted by them while you get away.
As for the weirdly arguing with your standards:
"That's my prerogative" :)
And
"Whatever helps you sleep at night" 🤷
makes ugly, whiny, entitled incels slump. (Shuts up pickmes too. Win-win)
You have to spend less time with him though, seriously, because men like him stalk and murder their classmates/coworkers/neighbors eventually. They never stop being smarmy weird fucks, not even after their hair turns grey.
As for how its going to go? He for real is going to notice and lash out. DO NOT GIVE HIM THE OPPORTUNITY TO LASH OUT AT YOU IN PRIVATE. IF HE STARTS TALKING TO YOU, ACTIVELY START WALKING TOWARDS OTHER PEOPLE. That way you have witnesses. Be prepared for it. Keep making friends with other people.
I'm still very naive so idk if this is gonna be helpful but since he was your friend. You should literally confront him like "hey I don't appreciate the way you acted and I feel very uncomfortable" then literally just cut him off. What you guys think of this advice?