If my parents had taught me how to date according to FDS standard, would I have automatically known how to date and avoid predatory men?

I was never taught about which men I should watch out for, Pickme grandma says you need to cook and clean or no man would want you, Pickme mother claims as long as he is nice to you the he deserves a chance and starts annoyingly point out men who are ogling me on the streets, I warned her to stop it or it's the last time im letting her join.

It's incredibly frustrating that the ones who are supposed to know better are a bunch of morons with sh!tty advise.

I learned the hard way that respect is more important that love and you should never believe his words but his actions instead,

From FDS I learned if he wanted to he would, If he wanted to make you happy he would, If he wants to make you feel loved he would. Words mean nothing If his actions show that he doesn't feel like doing it.

When I look at the people I dealt with I know that disrespect means the mask has slipped, Pranks and jokes are not done to make you happy but to make him feel entertained.

And If only I had the handbook in my teens, I would have been so much better.

I think that if parents taught their kids self respect, self esteem would follow. I think parents can also teach kids to trust their intuition. Mine did not, and that was my biggest problem. I knew what was bad for me, but when I got into a bad relationship I didn't listen to myself.

Parents can have a huge impact, but kids will still make their own screwups. FDS parents can help but they aren't the whole story

I do think some of this comes from having a secure household. Kids who grow up with a secure familial unit have more confidence in class, etc. It makes sense that some of this confidence in self would carry on to dating.

Having that background FDS type knowledge can help, even if this kid grows up to make a few mistakes, they can know that there is a different way of living than from under the patriarchy's boot. My take anyway, parents of FDS, what's your input?

This is one of those "what if" questions that no one can really answer for OP except herself.

I imagine if we'd all been taught FDS from birth, many of us would have suffered less from scrote bullshit. We would have scoffed automatically at 50/50 bill splitting, porn addiction, rampant marijuana consumption, anal sex, negging, etc., instead of learning the hard way that these practices are not beneficial for women.

For example, I was taught early on that teenage pregnancy was something to avoid. As a result, I didn't get pregnant as a teenager, and I'm glad the society I lived in warned me about the dangers of teenage pregnancy before I had the opportunity to make it a possibility.

But I was not taught 50/50 bill splitting and negging were unacceptable, so I tolerated those behaviors from LVM in my teens and 20s. I regret my tolerance to this day.

*English is not my main language.

At least in my case I think it was more about me not being educated at all, not only in the dating scene (for example my father was a good carpenter, but never teached anything to my brother bc he was unninterested in it, and neither to me bc I was a girl. Same tale with sports and so on), and when you deprive girls with interesting stuff, the entertaiment industry (movies, books, songs, etc) leads a women to overgiving importance to the love thing. The more I level up the less interest I have in giving my time and thoughts to a man, and I'm not even 'restraining' my self; it's coming naturally.

It's really hard to raise daughters to self-respect in a patriarchy, and at best, you get girls taught specific hoops to make men jump through, but they don't respect womanhood in and of itself, so the hoops are meaningless.

Maybe, maybe not lol. I mean, making dumb decisions and rebelling against one's parents is a part of growing up. Not to mention social conditioning and media the kid consumes will play a big role. One can have parents who are anti smoking and teach their kids to not smoke, but the kid might end up smoking because of smoker friends.

Some things take practice too, like keeping healthy boundaries, so real life experience can be necessary.

ETA: knowing the right thing is better than not knowing though!

No, because predatory men will always come up with new ways to harm women and disguise them as acts for kindness so they are hard to spot. It's kind of like scammers. We are often educated on how to spot scams but people still end up as victims as scammers keep on coming up with new ways to scam people.

My mother was as FDS as they come, but I still ended up falling for TRP crap in my late teens and was a bit of a pickme, thankfully that sorted itself out fairly quickly lol.