If I have no friends does that make me LV???

I don’t have advice for you but I’m glad you posted because I am in the exact same boat. 0 friends and just one acquaintance as well and I’m very worried about how I’d explain myself to a potential partner who will think that if she has no friends then she’s the problem. When the truth is that I just don’t tolerate bullshit anymore.

Hey there! I was in the same boat for a while not having any friends. I had just moved to a new state and knew nobody. I also had really bad social anxiety.

My advice is that low value= no effort. In this scenario, You had to cut off friends because they were no longer being beneficial to you. It’s not that you weren’t putting effort Into the relationships but it was the other way around. An ex of mine had no friends when I met him. This was in the new state. The difference was that he made zero effort to make or keep friends. After a year I was hanging out with people from town and they only friend he had was me. All the hangouts we went to were because I was invited to them and he tagged along. You are not low value because you don’t have friends at the moment. We all have those moments where we need to do a “spring cleaning” of people who do not need to be in our lives. Low value is making no effort to have any. Sometimes you will make an effort and nothing will come of it. But most important thing to remember is that you are trying.

Hi friend! Best is a relative term. It just means best out of the pool that you have. So you can tell him you have a blast with your friends when you can see them, but you are also very busy with your hobbies at the moment. He does not need to know that these friends are really acquaintances or people you just met on FDS. In the mean time, don't feel bad about your standards. If you yourself can meet your standards, then they are not too high. The one difference I would say between friendships and men we are dating is that with female friendships, I think we should kindly communicate our standards and how we expect to be treated when friends fall short. In addition we should notice and apologize when we ourselves are not great friends. In contrast, we don't communicated our standards with men, we just block and delete.

No, it's normal. Especially if you're past the college days. Friends drop like flies, lol. Besides, you can make new friends everyday. So I would reframe the title: Having no friends means you don't have LV friends either.

Honestly this comes with age. Once I hit my late twenties, I grew apart from many friends. Think about it, you have changed, and so have they. Sometimes what anchors a friendship for so long is the fact you used to be good friends. That doesn’t reflect negatively on you, if they were no longer contributing to a friendship then, sometimes it’s better to let them go. Friendships are a form of relationship. They need equality too. But, to make friends you have to put yourself out there. Got a hobby? Cool. Find another one. Hobbies are a great way to meet people. Bumble BFF. I’ve met a good friend on there, never would have met her otherwise. Be friendly! I always smile at women and make a point to be friendly. This is saying a ton because my resting bitch face is real. And remember that making new friends is awkward but you can do this. Don’t force yourself to stay in the past.

Thank you for this post. I am on a similar boat. I am questioning a lot of friendships I had or have, and I feel very alone. Last night I couldn't sleep because of the realization that most of my friends did not reach out when I was alone, living alone in the pandemic. I had dropped some friendships before it, but thought I had a solid group.

I don't think you're LV, you just haven't found yet people with the same mindset as you, I only have one friend and the others are all acquaintances too. Prioritizing quality over quantity is enough HV for me, be well!

Hey you are not the only one. I have moved out of a small town and away from toxic people I grew up with, including my family. It sucks but I don't really have friends as well.

I live in the city and have a bunch of acquaintances while I'm leveling up, but I am generally lost on how to get closer to someone in a healthy way because I come off as clingy. I am in therapy, but professionally I'm fine so I don't feel like a LVW. I am still really lonely at times.

we’re not low value because we haven’t found other high value people. Lot of us were people pleasers and/or pickmes. Now you have woken up and saw all the trash that’s in your life. I’m in the same boat too. 98% of my friends were lv leaches

many of us have had to prune our friend trees to find only a stump left. It's not LV, it's human and normal. we outgrow people and change. Listen to the FDS podcast on "finding your girl gang" and have faith that you will re-build that garden. This is also a useful video on making friends: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gf5STE2VJKI