So I had a guy constantly ask to go out with me for a week and I finally say yes. He asks what I want to do and I say I would like to maybe get something to eat, as there is not much to do around me. He says he's low on funds, which would most likely mean he would try to get me to pay. I politely turned him down. Do you think that is the right thing to do? I definitely don't want to get stuck paying for someone else's food. I just don't think it's right under any circumstances for a man to ask a woman to pay for a first date, but that could be my opinion. Years ago I would have guys ask me to do low effort things like go over their house and I learned the hard way that man do not value that. And that's also dangerous and scetchy.
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What a scrote. A man that is "low on fund" has no business dating to begin with. And if he did date, it would be rude to bring up the fact that he's broke. It's pathetic & manipulative on his part, and awkward on yours.
Its hilarious to me that he hounded you for a week, wears you down, then proudly states he is broke. Huh???
He said he’s low on funds because the whole time he was planning on inviting you over to “hang out” so you could just watch TV and make out. He was probably hoping that you would say “I don’t care what we do,” opening up the door for him to suggest this. You did the right thing.
The fact that he asked you what you wanted to do is enough reason to block and delete. Scrote is low effort and wanted you to do the planning (and paying).
Right choice. Men who bring up being broke are not worth dating
I don't even know where to start with this. If a guy was pestering me to go on a date and when I caved asked me what I wanted to do, I would be disgusted. He's had all this time to think about fun things to do with me and yet, nothing? This man is exceptionally low value. As for the 'I'm broke' comment, this is like something from a 'what-not-to-do' romcom. It's utterly outrageous that he thought that was an appropriate thing to say, or an appropriate state to be in.
Maybe I'm missing something but when you ask someone out you should have the courtesy topay for their dinner, When I want to spend time with someone their enjoyment is my first priority, I will treat them for dinner and I'll be honest about the things I can or can't afford so that there won't be a higer bill.
If I can do it then so should men, I can't believe men have the nerve to do such a thing.
The fact that he didn't have a plan after he wore you down to a yes is a red flag. Imagine a guy asking his dream girl out and not having a plan.
Sounds like he wanted to encourage you to choose to dine at a cheap restaurant so he can pay less. If a guy is "low on funds", he should focus on improving his financial situation before dating.
Have you read the handbook yet?
You did the right thing. Men should always pay because they are the ones courting you. If they don't, they're not serious and/or not qualified to be courting.
READ THE HANDBOOK. No you did not do anything wrong! Unless you think living with a 50/50 scrote is a good idea.
Back during my college days, when guys did this, I’d offer to buy them coffee 😝. Granted, I didn’t know that they were asking me out nor did I realize it was a date hahaha
We’d just hang out for like one time, and they’d treat me weirdly after I bought them coffee ahahahah No wonder why they never wanted to see me again lol upon reading these comments…now I get it.
I don't think you'll get any argument here against what you did. I would have done the same thing.
Far better than you missing out on an RSVP to a non-chain restaurant because you took too long getting ready!
Read the handbook, pickme.