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I'm at a point in life where almost everyone in my social circles is female. All of my close friends are female and many don't even live in the same local area as me (so yes, even if I asked around for set ups, it's not like I know many people who can do that for me). My workplace is predominantly female (not that I want to date a coworker but it goes to show how almost everyone in my social circles nowadays is female).
I sometimes think my chances of meeting HVM are zero these days. It's true that I can pay to join hobby classes and matchmaking events to meet men but I really don't want to pay to meet men. There are no group activities I want to join at this point. I'm an introvert and my idea of a nice day-off is chilling at home.
There are free ways to meet men such as OLD. I had played around with OLD before. A lot of profiles were terrible or had red flags. Many men who appeared decent also never messaged me first or replied to my messages. I don't know how to say this, but I feel like there is stranger danger when using OLD. I work on weekends so I feel like I am too tired to volunteer to meet men.
I think the only chances of me meeting men is via random one-off encounters. I've heard of stories of how people met their SOs after a brief encounter at a wedding, restaurant, park, bookstore, concert, museum, or lecture. I've never met a guy via this method so I don't know how it works though (and yes, there's also stranger danger). I can't help but feel like it will only "work" if 1) the guy is a pickup artist, 2) the guy is in a situation where almost everyone in his social circles is male so he is eager to get to know women he met in one-off encounters, or 3) you are hot enough to be seen as a trophy wife.
Should I take more initiative in meeting men or just let things be?
I know how you feel. I'm an introvert as well and living in a foreign country where the majority of people are introverted too so saying it's been hard would've been an understatement 😭. What has worked for me, though, was meeting people in language classes! Haven't met my HVM yet, but it sure did open an opportunity to meet some awesome people (mostly women) who are in the same situation as me or have similar interests~ 🤗.
Do not use OLD, maybe it worked for people a couple of years ago, but nowadays it's such a scam. Meetups are honestly a hit or miss for me - I've been on some awesome ones where I met some great people and made friends, and some really shitty ones, filled with scrotes 🤢. I guess it depends on the theme and organizer? Always vet them!
Oh, and volunteering is also another great opportunity to find like-minded people and open your social circle! Have you tried it? Wishing you the best~ ☺️