I need an advice. I'm lonely and was hoping to try out dating apps. Is it good? Is it bad?

Def check out the OLD (online dating) podcasts that touch on these topics. I found them really helpful. It’s what you make of it. You need to vet them. I recommend the “walk dates are for dogs” podcast. I listened to it yesterday and I was snapping and “mhm-ing” along. Lots of good tips in there. Don’t fall into the loneliness trap where your need for companionship makes you accept what’s offered the first time around. Online dating, especially with the pandemic, men seem to have lost touch with what courting is - and tend to blame it on the pandemic. Don’t accept a walk in the park as a date is all I’m saying or a Starbucks date because it’s a pandemic. You’ll see this often with the apps. Also, going back to getting them before meeting them. FaceTime or talk on the phone. But also realize just because you are having good conversation on the phone doesn’t mean that will translate in person. Continue looking through Reddit posts as well this is touched on a lot. Best of luck 💖

The exact thing happened to me- the advice on OLD is solid. However, you have to be in a place where you can take the emotional craziness of it. When I first started it (beginning of COVID), I was coming out of an 8 year relationship that had really ended 2 years before, but I would try about every 6 months to resurrect it (I got over that real quick when he did something very cruel to me on my birthday).

At first, OLD was great, I loved all the attention for my starvation level self esteem- hearing from 30-40 guys a week 😮 but when I found FDS, when I started vetting people, then talking to them, then going out with them... it got to be a grind. I met some really great guys- and got ghosted. I got disgusted with the people I was meeting and ghosted them, which I swore I would never do- but OLD after a while can make you pretty jaded. You have to keep a rotation going- or else you can fall for someone too quickly before you have had time to really check them out. Things can get weird- nothing like a man you've decided to remove from the rotation since they didn't meet your standards.. they can be very angry people. It seems to be feast or famine. I was ghosted 2 times this week, and I've had weeks where I didn't have time to communicate in any fashion with so many people who could have been possibilities. I've had one decent several month relationship. You really need to have very firm boundaries- and a thick skin.

So I would say do it- but know what the good/bad sides are to it, how to avoid pitfalls, and make sure you can handle it mentally and emotionally. And. know when you need to take a break from it for whatever reason. I've gotten a lot of free months from several sites just by telling them why I was leaving. Like a lot of things in life, sometimes you get lucky, sometimes you lose, sometimes you care too much, or don't care at all what happens. But ALWAYS stick to your principles, inner moral code and values- FDS has got this right- Good Luck!!!!!

Savannah on the podcast made a defense of OLD, just be careful and have your vetting strats at the ready!