Went on a date the other day and although the guy was handsome, he proved to be INCREDIBLY boring, to the point where I had to go multiple times to the toilet to stay on my phone. "But hey, there are worst things than being boring", I told myself. "Maybe he's just more introverted", I thought.
Anyways, the bill comes and he pays. Out of sheer politeness I tell him to send me half of the bill when he gets home. And you know what he did?
HE SENT ME HALF THE BILL!!
I couldn't even eat half of my portion. I TOLD him I wouldn't be able to finish it most likely. He ate the rest. THIS BITCH ATE CHICKEN ON MY MONEY!! HE EVEN TOOK SOME HOME!
I ended up paying half of it because I'd rather spend some money than have some scrote think I own him anything. Just the thought disgusts me.
Now, the question is: how do I stop taking this so personally? I must admit, it took a blow to my ego- I've never had a guy send me half the bill before. I see it as being super offensive, like saying that a woman is not pretty enough to be worth your money (at least that's how it's perceived in my non-western country). I feel like I have wasted time, money and effort on this one date, and it makes me furious.
Did you have a smiliar feeling upon having a LVM cheat you out of your money? Any idea on how to feel better about it? I know (rationally) that LVM are abundant and that this sort of situations are bound to happen from time to time, but I just feel so insulted....
Why did you ask him to send you half the bill? You weren’t cheated out of money. You played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. Next time just say “Thank you for inviting me to dinner.”
This was an odd post. You asked him to send you half the bill and he did. What’s the problem? Men aren’t mind readers they can’t predict what you really want from them. I always say from the start that I want dinner only and he needs to pay in order to get access to my time without expecting sex in return. If that’s what he wants then hook up with an onlyfans girl.
You asked him to send you half the bill.
He did.
Am I missing something here? Why is this even a post?
You offering to go halfsies puts a target on your back. A "she's easily guilt tripped" target. Which is blood in the water to a shark. Rapist men love coercive "sex" because it is rape, and they know it. (She thinks paying half will stop me? I'll just buy her a cheap gift that she didn't ask for, and demand sex after)
If a man is rapey, he will show you no matter the type of date or the type of woman. If a man is tit for tat, he will show you. Unfortunately, a lot of men are like that. I do recommend that women have the money to pay half just in case, but I don't recommend offering it.
So you offered to pay half? Why?
Never do that! He did pay and probably didn’t even think to split until you said so.
I think, you shouldn’t offer to pay unless you want to be taken up on it. Plus offering to pay half really takes away from the date element.
Don't feel better. Learn from this humiliating experience. And next time, don't offer up your money to a man.
Ugh! Take it personally! How offensive to be invited out, paid for, and then sent a Venmo request for your portion. It's spineless and underhanded and you should've reported it to Venmo as a spam request and never paid him a dime, you already paid for it by suffering his company
12/10 I guarantee men know that if they bring up they want to split the bills before the date- they wouldn't get any dates.
Is this for real???? I don't buy it.
You made your own bed sis.
It's just a lesson. Part of vetting men out of your dating pool.
What?! This is crazy, and not HVW behavior… which is rule #1.
Lol this happened to me before and I just blocked/deleted him.