How to meet men when almost everyone in my social circle is female?

I know what you mean. My social circle also consists of relatives, friends/acquaintances who are either women or couples and colleagues (who are obviously off limits). I think that's true for most people after a certain age.

Meeting single men who could be HV in your 30s is a real challenge in any case. In the past year the occasions where I met single, eligible men were:

• bigger social occasions in my friend/relative circle (weddings, big birthdays etc.) for distant relatives, coworkers, old friends etc. of the host/the host's partner

• rarely: coincidences while I was going out with a group of friends

• hobby/interest related: I love going to exhibition openings, lectures, classical concerts etc. and there's always an opportunity to chat with someone there

• volunteering related: you always meet people who are active for the same cause there

Other than that? Nothing really. I don't do OLD or go to any kind of dating events. I don't enjoy hanging out in random bars or at public parties to try to meet random people and I also don't appreciate being approached while I am just trying to live my life (e.g. at the gym or while I'm grocery shopping).

But... isn't that how it's supposed to be? I mean before the internet and all that stuff those were the chances to meet and the only appropriate situations to approach other single people, too, and humanity didn't die out then.

I think if it's something you want, you do have to tell your friends and family that you are open to being introduced to men they know. If they're anything like me, they're sensible enough to not to stick their nose in someone else's business completely unbidden. But if you give them express permission, it would be a different story.

Of course, you'd only want to give this permission to people like me, who wouldn't just hand you any piece of trash I find on the street, but I also wouldn't take it personally if you and the man I think you have a chance of liking, don't end up liking each other.

Same, and the men I meet are not the type I'd date.

I don’t have a good answer.

You won’t like what I have to say, but you might have to get back on OLD.

This isn’t the most satisfying anecdote, but I’ll share it anyway:

Many years ago, I dated a man I thought I wanted to marry. He turned out to be a scrote, but that’s not the point. The point is before he met me, he worked in an almost exclusively male environment and lived in a suburban bedroom community where there were no public places for socializing/meeting new people.

To maximize his chances of finding a life partner, he moved to a city that was a 1.5-hour commute from his workplace and made an OLD account. That means he commuted 3 hours to and from work every day in order to have a chance at meeting a woman in his vicinity. I lived in that city, and that’s how he met me. Online. In a city that was inconvenient for him to live in and where he knew no one. But he made it happen.

If there are simply no eligible men in your location, and you think finding a partner is very important, then you might just need to move to a place where there are more eligible men.

im not sure i want to ever willingly go out of my way to find men again. sorry no help BUT i would love to hear updates on if you eventually do meet a HVM. Im not going to date until I get my ovaries yeeted