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I'm at a point in life where almost everyone in my social circle (at least for people my age) is female. I know FDS does not encourage us to meet men but I think I need to take initiative in interacting with men. The chances of me coming across a HVM is pretty much zero if almost everyone in my social circle is female.
I don't want to pay to meet men. Matchmakers and speed dating are big nos. Even paying for classes doesn't seem to be worth it given how the chance of meeting HVM anywhere is low. I also don't want to go around asking friends and family to set me up with men. I can't help but think if they already know men they saw as potential matches, they would have already setted me up with them. I am also uncomfortable with using OLD given how many cheaters and scammers lurk there.
How to meet men when almost everyone in my social circle is female?
I don’t have a good answer.
You won’t like what I have to say, but you might have to get back on OLD.
This isn’t the most satisfying anecdote, but I’ll share it anyway:
Many years ago, I dated a man I thought I wanted to marry. He turned out to be a scrote, but that’s not the point. The point is before he met me, he worked in an almost exclusively male environment and lived in a suburban bedroom community where there were no public places for socializing/meeting new people.
To maximize his chances of finding a life partner, he moved to a city that was a 1.5-hour commute from his workplace and made an OLD account. That means he commuted 3 hours to and from work every day in order to have a chance at meeting a woman in his vicinity. I lived in that city, and that’s how he met me. Online. In a city that was inconvenient for him to live in and where he knew no one. But he made it happen.
If there are simply no eligible men in your location, and you think finding a partner is very important, then you might just need to move to a place where there are more eligible men.