How to detect a pickme

I'm not trying to attack fellow women of course, and I understand that pickme culture is very much a result of the patriarchy and social conditioning. I don't have many female friends because I think I've leveled up a lot and it's simply hard to find others on my level. I have a hard time relating to most women and find myself biting my tongue when they express their libfem type views and things of that nature, making genuine connections difficult. I'm wondering what are some easy, maybe less-obvious ways to detect someone is a pickme, before wasting my time trying to befriend them? Are friendships with them worth pursuing, and under what circumstances? One pet peeve and probable pickme red flag I've noticed are women who say things like "dude" and "bro" when interacting with men. Or women who are supportive of onlyfans and post thirsttraps on social media. Yesterday at a work outing, I was also asked by a couple women (in relationships) if I was seeing anyone or have been on any dates lately, and when I responded "no," they seemed like they pitied me. I told them it was because "nobody has qualified" to date me. They seemed supportive and told me to keep my standards high, but at the same time it felt like they were judging me. I really want to expand my social circle (which is pretty nonexistent), but I'm losing hope in my area.