How long do you wait for a guy to ask you on a second date?

I would just live my life and not think about him really. He's only an acquaintance at this point and nothing more. I guess you could surmise from his vagueness that he's seeing other women and may or may not contact you. He would be setting up the 2nd date at the end of the first one if really interested. Just my thoughts.

Yes. Agree with @Smokeyquartz if he was interested he wouldn't let it be so vague and open ended. He'd want to make sure he's secured a second date. Two weeks is too long to wait.

This is the kind of thing I've been relaxed about in the past but now see as a red or at least amber flag.

Men who do this talking the talk but not following through are a major problem. He is either keeping his options open or wants you to chase - neither is good.

There's a possibility he's shy and needs a push, but if that was the case I think your intuition would tell you. If it's causing you anxiety, he isn't it.

Live your life and if he pops back up in the near future, act as if you have no idea who he is. A man who is wishy washy and doesn't lock down the second date, quickly, is not interested or has another date he wants more and is keeping you on the back burner. This is why as women we need to keep every guy on the back burner until he deems himself worthy of our time/attention.

Just want to thank everyone who commented. This was my first time posting and I'm glad I did. I've written the guy off at this point. In case anyone's curious, he showed other red flags such as joking about murdering women, joking about sex/masturbation, being underdressed for the date, not seeming to practice dental hygiene, talking over me, interrupting, and defending a pedophile. Yikes. See, I think I just needed a space to talk about it or type it all out. I really value FDS. Thanks again.

If I don't hear from him again after 24-48 hours of saying goodbye to him on that first date, I consider him a no-go and block him. A man who's truly interested and invested will move quickly.

Of course, this is my boundary. Yours may differ from me. But I used to be the woman who would wait weeks, even months, for a man to show up for me. It's just not realistic for me to put up with that stuff anymore. I'm done being that silly headed woman. So now, it's two days, and then its off with his head.

I had a date with a guy (Sunday) and he asked to see me again the later that day. After our second date (Tuesday) I heard nothing until Friday. Total scrote. My bad for being a pickme who chased. I thought he was keen 🤡 With current boyfriend I had a date (Friday) and he asked to see me the next day. The earliest I was free was the next Friday. He took the day off work (it was school holidays and I’m a single mum). He never went more than 12 hrs without contact. I was a bit raw from the previous guy and was (in hindsight) more FDS. It’s less about the next date than the consistency. Going hard early on isn’t necessarily a good sign.

Four days maximum 1. Zero loving relationships I know of begin with an inconsistent man.

2. When men like you AND are looking for relationship there is a sense of immediacy NOT urgency.

3. When I have blocked in the past, these men got in touch with me and then proceeded to waste more of my time.

4. Agree with above posters. Men usually try to set up a 2nd date at the end of the first or they text follow up to test the waters to see if you want to go out again. The vagueness might be him trying to let you down easy.

Two weeks is too long .

Just keep your options open and keep seeing other people.