How long, after you start officially dating, will an HVM typically wait to tell their family?

I feel like probably neither immediately nor when they’re sure you’re the one. Probably somewhere in the middle. Doesn’t have to be one way or another. And everyone’s situation is different. When I wonder what a HVM would do in a situation I always just ask myself what I would do if I was in his shoes. Because I’m a HVW and I deserve actions that match my expectations.

Err, the HVM in my life were quite excited to have me around. Couldn't stop speaking of me in front of their families. They came from really close knit families as well. So, if there's a new women in his life, the family just knows from quite early. On the other hand, your family needs to know pretty early on so that your sister/brother get to know him. They can definitely sniff out the LVM better than you anyways. They aren't the ones in love or anything. So, basically, pretty safe to say if you belong to a good enough community, people know. Because men talk ..a lot.

This is a good question! Too soon is a red flag, but you definitely don’t want to feel like there’s avoidance. I feel like a HVM will wait until there’s stability and good cadence in the relationship and then tell family. Then you’ll probably hear about it and begin discussing timeline for meeting them. I would definitely look for feeling a sense of stability and comfort gained with a reasonable (but not excessive) amount of time. A couple of months? Putting a number on it is hard. It depends on the man, his relationship with his family, and your relationship.

family for me is somewhat irrelevant. I cant control how he wants to interact with his family nor is that my issue. I want him to not be OVERLY attached to his family (I want him to want to make a new one with me) is this demanding. Probably but that’s how I am. But I was invited to Christmas 6 months after dating.

For me to feel comfortable telling my family or my friends I’m officially seeing someone is around 6-12 months honestly. The masks will drop off around that time so I will probably not inform anyone on my end until I know for sure he is the one. If a HVM asked me to be exclusive within 3 months, I will say I’m not ready. I think that’s too early in my opinion as they can fake it for a longer period.