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The wealthy men I know are almost always taken and their SOs are either someone from their social class or an extremely attractive woman. The women married to wealthy men who are not wealthy themselves are often celebrities or influencers widely celebrated for their looks. I have no interest in actively pursuing men or being a homewrecker. Even finding a HVM within my social class is tough. The men who were interested in me were almost always less wealthy than me.
Some users here say hypergamy is desirable, but how does it work? IMO a lot of men are only into dating women who are wealthier and/or more attractive than them. When they don't, there's the chance that they see them as placeholders. Many men care about social class and they are unwilling to do what they consider as "dating down", making hypergamy difficult.
Finding HVM from any socioeconomic circle is tough. Period.
Based on my observations, men, by and large, date their socioeconomic equals, though I think it is ignorant to determine someone's socioeconomic status based on looks or money alone.
Family history, connections, education, attitudes, and lifestyle are just as important as (if not more important than) looks or money in determining a person's socioeconomic status, especially if you step outside the U.S.
The best way I can think of is to level up in terms of your education, career, and looks. Do not associate with trashy, uneducated, or poor men; literally avoid them like the plague. Also, do not associate with women who associate with these sorts of men (when you level up for long enough, you'll discover you have nothing in common with these women anyway). These are the factors you can control.
I don't know if it actually works for the reasons you've said. Men aren't going to marry someone with less, unless she's a 10.
You could marry a man that makes more than you or has more, even if he isn't extremely wealthy.
I think there's a limit when it comes to hypergamy.
How does it work? Usually it doesn't. If you really want to marry up, make your own money first. Like another commenter said, there is a limit.
Even outside of SES, I feel like the men who pursue me are always a "league" or two below me in terms of looks/social skills. I always get pursued by the "weird" guys, and I'm trying to improve so I'll attract better quality men but it's hard.
I married up completely on accident.
Fell in love with someone pretending to be a country boy.
Play yourself down in areas with wealthy men. Be around them.
Find the social circle, and be charming.
Marriage proposals are a dime a dozen, even from rich guys. Had a sugar daddy try to marry me this last year.