Completely ridiculous and a cheap trick scrotes use to string women along without commiting to them. If you are legally old enough and thinking about marriage there is only one choice: proposing. It's not like it can't be undone if one of you changes their mind or the circumstances change.
An engagement ring is the only "promise ring" there is: the promise to marry you.
What else is a promise ring even supposed to mean? "I promise to maybe think about proposing some day"?
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I guess “I promise to promise to marry you” would be the literal translation of a promise ring since an engagement ring IS a promise in & of itself? This has never made sense to me. So childish.
This isn't really a thing in the UK thankfully (at least not where I am) but good lord what a load of nonsense. Sounds like the stuff of teenage fantasies to me.
Not even then. As a teen, so much can change in just the 1 year after high school graduation. It's not healthy to promise your whole life to another person at that age tbh
Yeah, ive lived most of my life in the northeast and i know of no irl first hand accounts of a promise ring. It's definitely not what I'd call "common" here.
I think people from other countries are getting the idea that promise rings are a ubiquitous tradition in the US, and that's just not true. I'm not sure that it's actually more common here than it is in the UK or Canada. Unless someone here has experienced something different?
I'm not from the US so the premise of promise rings seems very styupid to me. I don't get it, what are you promising exactly? That SOMEDAY you'll replace that ring with a real engagement ring? Come on, that's unnecesary, dumb and cheap. If you're convienced that you want to marry a woman, then you propose and give her the real thing (engagement ring and, eventually, wedding ring).
So yeah, promise rings are childish and pointless in my opinion.
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It's part of stupid ideas men come up with to benefit themselves by making any excuse or delay to keep a woman but not actually commit.
Let's live together to pay 50/50 and save on money!
It's crazy how the male talking points change when they want to benefit from oppressing us. It the 50s, those same men yapping on about "sExUAl cOmPaTAbILiTy" would've been calling you a wh**e for having premarital seggs.
They're stupid. My friend has one from her boyfriend since their 20's. They're in their 30's and she still has a promise ring. Meanwhile, her younger sister who just turned 30 is engaged and her and her fiance just bought a house. I've met him....nice guy.
Holy crap! That’s terrible. A girl in my anatomy class just got a promise ring at the Beyoncé concert last night, and she was acting like it meant something. I was thinking it was embarrassing but didn’t say anything lest I be called a hater lol
But to elaborate, I don't really have a problem if it's a young couple (teens- very early 20s) that aren't in a place to get married but the guy wants to show commitment. I think it's fine up to 20 or so. I still think it's lame. But I'm not gonna judge them.
Past that, I think it's a way for men to be non-commital with looking like he is committed. Past a certain point you need to be giving an engagement ring. That actually has purpose. A promise ring doesn't really have meaning.
I actually used to live with a bf when I was young. Things got rocky after about a year living together, I stuck it out because I was encouraged to by friends.
Once when Christmas was coming up he asked what I wanted. I told him I wanted some nice jewelry. I wasn't specific in what I wanted because he can figure it out.
Christmas comes, and he gives me a ring. It was actually pretty nice, nothing flashy though. Just a cute ring. I actually really liked it. Then he tells me it's a promise ring. And I made this face : 😬 because it was so stupid. I was probably 25 at the time. I felt too old at that age for one of those. I told him I'd keep the ring but it's not a promise ring because that's stupid.
He got pretty mad about it 😂
I knew someone who was given a promise ring at like 29/30 and for some reason she thought it was romantic but it just makes her look sad.
It's garbage way to lay claim instead of branding (I am being facetious) teenaged girls. It's baby patriarchy
This is high school manipulation, teens should have the freedom to find out who they are and what they like while their frontal lobe is still developing. It's not a time to make life long decisions.
I think they are for teens and outdated. They are "cute," not serious.
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To echo the other commenters: promise rings are for children. Children = under 18 years old.
A man who gives a promise ring to a woman is, intentionally or not, degrading her. As a 30-something woman, if I received a promise ring, I would feel insulted and infantilized.
As an American it feels extremely outdated to me. Like in times when a woman was expected to be married right out of high school, so your junior year bf (or even 8th grade puppy love relationship) had a very real possibility of working out to be permanent. It makes no sense in today's world, it's giving 50s sitcom character, ykwim? I back up the other commentators saying it's beyond childish. I'm actually shocked some scrotes use this in the present day, above 20s no less.
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Completely ridiculous and a cheap trick scrotes use to string women along without commiting to them. If you are legally old enough and thinking about marriage there is only one choice: proposing. It's not like it can't be undone if one of you changes their mind or the circumstances change.
An engagement ring is the only "promise ring" there is: the promise to marry you.
What else is a promise ring even supposed to mean? "I promise to maybe think about proposing some day"?
This isn't really a thing in the UK thankfully (at least not where I am) but good lord what a load of nonsense. Sounds like the stuff of teenage fantasies to me.
I'm not from the US so the premise of promise rings seems very styupid to me. I don't get it, what are you promising exactly? That SOMEDAY you'll replace that ring with a real engagement ring? Come on, that's unnecesary, dumb and cheap. If you're convienced that you want to marry a woman, then you propose and give her the real thing (engagement ring and, eventually, wedding ring).
So yeah, promise rings are childish and pointless in my opinion.
It's part of stupid ideas men come up with to benefit themselves by making any excuse or delay to keep a woman but not actually commit.
Let's live together to pay 50/50 and save on money!
Even though statistics show thirty-four percent of the time, married couples who had lived together before they were engaged or married ended up divorced within the time frame studied. That's in contrast to less than one-fourth of the marriages of those who were engaged or married before they decided to move in together.
We need to have sex to determine sexual capability!
...do I really need to debunk this one? Eww. Fuck this question and men who ghost after sex.
They're stupid. My friend has one from her boyfriend since their 20's. They're in their 30's and she still has a promise ring. Meanwhile, her younger sister who just turned 30 is engaged and her and her fiance just bought a house. I've met him....nice guy.
Just get engaged, ffs.
Insulting & infantilizing to any woman out of her teens. If a man tried to give one to me at my age (late 20’s), I’d laugh in his face.
Um unless you're both 15, no thanks lol
When I was 22, my LVX gave me a promise ring for my birthday. Broke up with me not even 2 weeks later. So, no. They are meaningless.
I think promise rings are for children.
I think it's dumb.
But to elaborate, I don't really have a problem if it's a young couple (teens- very early 20s) that aren't in a place to get married but the guy wants to show commitment. I think it's fine up to 20 or so. I still think it's lame. But I'm not gonna judge them.
Past that, I think it's a way for men to be non-commital with looking like he is committed. Past a certain point you need to be giving an engagement ring. That actually has purpose. A promise ring doesn't really have meaning.
I actually used to live with a bf when I was young. Things got rocky after about a year living together, I stuck it out because I was encouraged to by friends.
Once when Christmas was coming up he asked what I wanted. I told him I wanted some nice jewelry. I wasn't specific in what I wanted because he can figure it out.
Christmas comes, and he gives me a ring. It was actually pretty nice, nothing flashy though. Just a cute ring. I actually really liked it. Then he tells me it's a promise ring. And I made this face : 😬 because it was so stupid. I was probably 25 at the time. I felt too old at that age for one of those. I told him I'd keep the ring but it's not a promise ring because that's stupid.
He got pretty mad about it 😂
I knew someone who was given a promise ring at like 29/30 and for some reason she thought it was romantic but it just makes her look sad.
Promises are always broken!
It's garbage way to lay claim instead of branding (I am being facetious) teenaged girls. It's baby patriarchy
This is high school manipulation, teens should have the freedom to find out who they are and what they like while their frontal lobe is still developing. It's not a time to make life long decisions.
That's highschool shit.
I think they are for teens and outdated. They are "cute," not serious.
To echo the other commenters: promise rings are for children. Children = under 18 years old.
A man who gives a promise ring to a woman is, intentionally or not, degrading her. As a 30-something woman, if I received a promise ring, I would feel insulted and infantilized.
As an American it feels extremely outdated to me. Like in times when a woman was expected to be married right out of high school, so your junior year bf (or even 8th grade puppy love relationship) had a very real possibility of working out to be permanent. It makes no sense in today's world, it's giving 50s sitcom character, ykwim? I back up the other commentators saying it's beyond childish. I'm actually shocked some scrotes use this in the present day, above 20s no less.
Can't a man just buy you (quality) jewelery without it meaning something?
Promises are always broken!
Promise rings are for kids in high school. If you are in your thirties, an engagement ring makes sense. A promise ring does not.