On one hand, I get highly irritated when people (and by people, I mean men 99% of the time lol) tell women what they can and can't do. Guys say things like she's fatherless (which, why would you make fun of a woman for being abandoned by her father? Weird), un-wife-like, ungodly, you name it.
I always kindly remind these men that not everyone is a Christian and Matthew 18:9 tells them that if their eyes are causing them to lust, to gouge them out and then away.
It makes me happy to see other women happy and being free. On the flip side, I wonder if they really do feel free? I just feel like these women can get the attention they want...without being hypersexual. I don't want to say they're "degrading themselves" because it feels patriarchal.
However, I can just see how this can effect not just these ladies in the long term, but other women too. When women give up their bodies without making men court and commit, they normalize and encourage men assume ALL women act this way.
Then again, men will sexualize literally anything that moves. So can I pit this in the women who act this way? I have no idea what to think on this topic.
One thing I do know for sure is these women need to stop egging little girls into acting this way. Ice spice seems like a good person, I like her personality. But wtf was she thinking letting an actual minor being her twerking video???
I feel like this hypersexualize culture is leaking down onto the new young generation and it's effecting both girls and boys. But especially young girls. I don't know if any of you know the infamous social media star named "Lil Tay". She disappeared for 5 years before her scandal of someone in her family lying and saying she's dead (she wasnt).
She came out with a new music video and I was appalled. We have grown ass adults commenting on her appearance and saying "woah, where did she get that body from?". She was 9 years old the last time she was on the scene. She should be about 14-15 years old. She's going through puberty, and with puberty comes curves.
This is still a child though. It felt so icky watching ADULTS discuss a minors body. I'm seeing this a lot. It happened with Danielle Brogli and Danielle Cohn too. It's insane people back then were borderline bullying these young girls who were actually influenced by their horrible parents clout chasing.
It was gross watching kim k allow ice spice to come to her house and hang with North West. A grown woman, known for twerking...with a pre adolescent (I'm assuming, I don't know her age).
I've had women around imply that I'm a square because I don't like showing my body or twerking. Beyond the fact I'm just insecure lol, I don't think it's appropriate. It's one thing imyoure dancing like that with female friends. But these ladies want me to go to clubs and do this.
There's no way in heaven or hell that I'm ever allowing a scrote that hasn't done a single thing for me get that close to my body or see me like that. I really don't understand how this landed me with the label of "stuck up" and "square", but so be it.
What are your thoughts on this topic?
There's just so much projection, sexism, objectification, commodifying of women's bodies, person and sexuality ... etc etc etc most people are deeply entrenched and can't see it all simply for what it is: A woman's body & being (and that includes her sexuality) are her's to do with as she wishes. In the real world however, we all know the implications of that. Both in rhetoric, and in the physical. And yes, most women exposing themselves out there are pick-mes, desperate for attention and (what they mistakenly think is) 'validation'. howevere, some, you could argue (a small percentage), are truly empowered, but they still get treated like shit by everyone because they are still operaing within a depraved system, which will always reward male depravity. I used to be quite lib-fem, but now I squirm when I think of how I was, and other women (and let's face it, younger and younger girls) are putting themselves out there (especially with the internet these days omg...). Even the ones who are seemingly more 'empowered' are contributing to the toxic system, often unwittingly, because we just won't.can't accept how depraved that sebset of the population (XY) has become/is.
There needs to be a full and empowered witholding.
Not in the backward, perverted way where we as societies have 'blamed' women for men being unable to control themselves. But in the way that we say no, enough is enough. My body is MINE. only respect is acceptable.
Maybe one day a woman will be able to wear whatever she wants (whether fully covered, totally nude, or any where in between) and know she won't be in danger from some monster, but for the mean time, reality is what it is and that is what we have to work with.
I do think pick-me ism is extremely toxic though. Even though 'it's not her fault', 'she' is participating and perpetuating it all... Edited to add: TO be clear, what a woman wears has nothing to do with whether or not she will be SA-ed. Records/interviews show SA survivors sharing they 'were wearing' anything from baggy tracksuits, to skimpy club wear and all in between. I don't doubt muslim women in full covering get raped too. I just meant maybe one day we won't have to deal with this (wishful thinking I hope not...)
It depends how you define "over-sexualized" and in what circumstances, but quite frankly posting half naked photos online for free is trashy. It looks like they don't value themselves, and very pick me, like they need the male attention. If it's a naked photo thats not meant to be sexualised or part of a cosplay fine. Also many partners wouldnt be comfortable with random men online thirsting after the photos. To post sexual/pornographic photos online is objectifying yourself. Women i've seen doing this, especially on twitter, often have poor mental health or are the biggest pickmes i've seen. Men who "use" these photos are always LV men who sexualise women. FDS is against sending nudes in DMs, this is even worse imo.
Honestly, no matter how "free" women feel by exposing their bodies online or in person, it's simply not very safe. It's nearly impossible to get a man to look upon you as anything except a mobile sperm toilet even if you are dressed modestly, why would you want to make it any harder on you or other women to be seen as human beings and not objects? Women can do whatever they want, but for safety purposes, I don't put myself out there in a sexual manner. Period.
A woman can do whatever she wishes with her body, sure! But it isn't "informed consent". If all women knew how much of a baseline general dislike men have for women, they probably wouldn't be doing that.
I believe a woman can do with her body whatever she wants, and prostitutes etc. are just as human as the rest of us. However, I do kind of wonder why exactly would someone want to expose themselves to strangers and ultimately benefit men by providing them with something they can lust over for aka the male gaze. Also whether one wants it or not, if they dress in a very exposed way (whether a man or a woman), they WILL get stared at and get attention, that's just a fact. Doesn't excuse harrassment or SA though.
Porn addiction and what it does to men is a big problem, and those providing pornographic materials are a part of the issue. I've always been a big prude, because I feel super uncomfortable wearing revealing clothing, so I don't know what it's like to be a more "sexually open" woman. I feel empowered when I make the sight of my body a rare thing a man has to earn to get instead of being free-for all. I personally see dressing in an exposed way in certain settings to be inappropriate, whether it's a man or a woman. I personally wouldn't want a shirtless dude to be anywhere else but the pool or beach, same goes for women.
Women should be considered sacred and holy, regardless of their clothing or lack of clothing. Unfortunately because of the patriarchy, we are seen merely as objects, rather than the amazing, creative humans we are.
I will never judge a woman for her content. But I will always judge men for their inappropriate lust, entitlement and objectification of women. And I hate the patriarchy for ruining our ability to be free.
AS A GEN Z, YOU ARE RIGHT!!!! The outfit lil Tay wears in that MV is disgusting. When 3rd wave "feminism" is dead, these kinds of media will be shown to younger women as proof of how male degeneracy has quietly infiltrated society.
I have no respect for women who post such content. Simple. Theyre doing themselves and society a disservice.