Nothing wrong with going out to meet guys, but I think you’ll have more luck at places you find fun because you’re more likely to confident and happy in that space, with a more approachable energy.The problem with events that spoon feed men women— singles events, speed dating and dating apps is that men go with the perception that women in those spaces and platforms are desperate or defective. The sort of men looking for women like this are unlikely to be HV. HV men don’t want to spoonfed single women. It’s unnatural, it takes away from the thrill of the “chase” too if the women are already conquered. I went speed dating once and it was illuminating to see men who I wouldn’t let touch me with a ten foot pole think I’ll audition for them. Crazy. I know many disagree with my tactic of choosing the men you want in open spaces and general events, but you don’t even have to do that. Just be present, have fun, go out with friends and I think you’ll have much better outcomes. Just avoid anything geared towards single women. Here’s a good and hilarious example of choosing a man without chasing, and using non verbal cues: https://twitter.com/1fashoo_/status/1540073029946015745?s=46&t=lHQgBgHAq3Dccd-nXrc3jgOr even: https://twitter.com/yallluvcris/status/1481317618078334984?s=46&t=lHQgBgHAq3Dccd-nXrc3jg
It's mpossible to have fun in this type of high pressure environments, and I never met anyone high value there so it's a lose lose situation
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Nov 06, 2022
I dont go to events purely for the intent of meeting people. I go to events that interest me with the intent of having a great time, and inevitably there will be single people there.
some times I make a connection. Sometimes not. Maybe none of them are my type, or vice versa, but I still get to have a great time and leave fulfilled regardless of any potential romantic connection.
I’ve always found the idea of going out, be it to a special event or simply to bars or clubs, with the mission to meet men quite odd. Similarly, the men who hit the bars with a mission mindset to score women’s numbers or get laid always come off cringey compared to the guys that are just out with their friends and happen to notice a woman that intrigues them.
Never. A HV man - let alone one who checks all my other boxes - has no need to go to these types of events, so why would I? To meet desperate bottom of the barrel scrotes who can't meet or talk to women unless they are trapped in a room with them?
I honestly only go to events that benefit me first like networking, salsa, dancing, Galas, etc. because I would want to meet someone who has similar interests or is interacting with others and if I don’t, who cares? I’m having a blast anyways
I went for speed dating for a while, and honestly, it got sad fast. Most women didn’t bother going more than twice, but I wanted to meet someone, and had fun the first couple of times, so I repeated it, and time and again, the same scrotes were there. Then, I gave up.
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Nothing wrong with going out to meet guys, but I think you’ll have more luck at places you find fun because you’re more likely to confident and happy in that space, with a more approachable energy. The problem with events that spoon feed men women— singles events, speed dating and dating apps is that men go with the perception that women in those spaces and platforms are desperate or defective. The sort of men looking for women like this are unlikely to be HV. HV men don’t want to spoonfed single women. It’s unnatural, it takes away from the thrill of the “chase” too if the women are already conquered. I went speed dating once and it was illuminating to see men who I wouldn’t let touch me with a ten foot pole think I’ll audition for them. Crazy. I know many disagree with my tactic of choosing the men you want in open spaces and general events, but you don’t even have to do that. Just be present, have fun, go out with friends and I think you’ll have much better outcomes. Just avoid anything geared towards single women. Here’s a good and hilarious example of choosing a man without chasing, and using non verbal cues: https://twitter.com/1fashoo_/status/1540073029946015745?s=46&t=lHQgBgHAq3Dccd-nXrc3jg Or even: https://twitter.com/yallluvcris/status/1481317618078334984?s=46&t=lHQgBgHAq3Dccd-nXrc3jg
I dont go to events purely for the intent of meeting people. I go to events that interest me with the intent of having a great time, and inevitably there will be single people there.
some times I make a connection. Sometimes not. Maybe none of them are my type, or vice versa, but I still get to have a great time and leave fulfilled regardless of any potential romantic connection.
I’ve always found the idea of going out, be it to a special event or simply to bars or clubs, with the mission to meet men quite odd. Similarly, the men who hit the bars with a mission mindset to score women’s numbers or get laid always come off cringey compared to the guys that are just out with their friends and happen to notice a woman that intrigues them.
Never. A HV man - let alone one who checks all my other boxes - has no need to go to these types of events, so why would I? To meet desperate bottom of the barrel scrotes who can't meet or talk to women unless they are trapped in a room with them?
I honestly only go to events that benefit me first like networking, salsa, dancing, Galas, etc. because I would want to meet someone who has similar interests or is interacting with others and if I don’t, who cares? I’m having a blast anyways
I went for speed dating for a while, and honestly, it got sad fast. Most women didn’t bother going more than twice, but I wanted to meet someone, and had fun the first couple of times, so I repeated it, and time and again, the same scrotes were there. Then, I gave up.
I've never been to one, but when I looked them up, I realized they only match younger women with older men. Thanks but no thanks