How do you feel about men with female friends?

Men don't befriend women they aren't willing to have sex with. I have seen this happen so many times.

Here's a good example.

Men with close female friends are for the streets.

Leave them in the streets.

He gathers a harem of female 'friends' On purpose to triangulate his victims AKA new supplies AKA the women he dates. It's all a sick game to him I found with male narcissist they have majority female friends and with female narcissists they have majority male friends. Don't play his game and cut him off when he mentions a female friend on purpose to triangulate his victims a.k.a. New supplies aka the women he dates. don't play his game and cut him off when he mentions a female friend. He's sh*t testing you to see if you'll play cool girl and accept it. I pissed off s covert narcissist by questioning if he had majority female friends..he got overtly defensive and was hostile and distant the rest of out 'date'aka low effort drinks date cause he knew I was onto him cause he kept mentioning hugging another woman in front of me 😂😂

Dealbreaker for me.

It’s a hard no for me. After my own life experiences and just observing the relationships around me, there is pretty much always something weird going on when a man has female friends.

By the way, there’s a difference between a man with a close female friend and a man with a very casual female friend. If a man is casually friends with a woman, and they hang out in groups, because she is a long term family friend or his friend’s girlfriend, I think that’s healthy, and can be a green flag.

But the moment a man has a female “friend” that he’s hanging out with one on one, opening up to and having a deep emotional connection, lots of texting and video chats, trips together, etc… it’s a no for me.

I’d say probably the vast majority of these men have other “ill” intentions besides just friendship, whether that be trying to sleep with her, secretly pining over her and wanting a relationship, or simply getting the ego boost of hanging out with an attractive woman who thinks highly of him (having women around a man, even just as friends, elevates his status and makes it easier for him to get other women because he’s seen as more “trustworthy”).

Sure, maybe a small percentage of men with these female friends would have pure intentions, but even then, the chances of at least one of the two people eventually developing feelings is pretty high… and that gets messy fast. Also, a man who is emotionally mature and takes your relationship seriously, imo, would understand that risk and wouldn’t have female friends in order to prevent a scenario like that from happening.

To me, that’s just not something worth risking!

I'm convinced that most men are not interested in platonic friendships with women. I've had lots of men claim that they wanted to be my friend, only for it to turn out they wanted more than friendship. I no longer befriend men for this exact reason. If a man has close female friends, I'm going to assume that he's just like my former male "friends" and for this reason, it's a red flag for me.

I think the exception is if the women friends are more acquaintances or friends from a long time ago that don’t live in the same place or significant others of their male friends... no deep/emotional friendships.

Just sharing one experience. I was seeing a guy who was showing plenty of green flags (we were not official or exclusive) and he had lots of female friends. I'm not a jealous person and it genuinely didn't bother me. I made a joke about it one day and he got incredibly defensive and said he couldn't continue to see me if I had a problem with it as he was tired of other women telling him to stop seeking out female friendships. I thought it was a complete overreaction so I dropped it and didn't say anything else.

Naturally, I found out afterwards he was sleeping with at least 3 other women in his friendship group (that I was aware of, I'm sure there were others), so the defensiveness was kicking in for him as he was doing exactly what other women were suggesting he was and he felt called out.

I think it's fine for anyone to have friendships of the opposite gender, but if the depth of the friendship bothers you and the guy won't respect your boundaries, then he can get in the trash.

Its a bad sign if there are no women willing to befriend a certain man. That means there's something wrong with him.

It's also a bad sign if a man can't relate to women as friends. Pretty much all men are unable to see women as fully human, but they vary in degree. Men who cant make friends with women are on the far side of not seeing us as people. I dont like those men.

I also dont like when men spend too much time among each other. Men shouldnt have too much male influence in their lives; it breeds rape culture and other scrotishness. Men's behavior is moderated by female influence. That is, spending time with women makes them better people.

Unpopular FDS take here but I prefer he has lots of female friends because it shows he can see women as more than a sexual conquest.