How do you date if you don't like discussing politics?

Eventually you will have to talk politics with someone, it's an important part of compatibility. But until you start to think you want to keep them around you don't have to put up with the discussion.

I like to let people show me who they really are and the best way to do that is to let them talk themselves out. If he started in on politics and I was already looking for a way out then I'd say something that I knew would piss him off and then excuse myself from the date when he started to get loud. If I agreed with it I might engage in the discussion but usually the more silent I am the more insane shit comes out.

I find men rarely want to have a discussion about politics, they either want me to affirm their shit beliefs or they want to hear their own opinions coming out of my mouth. With women, I can have an actual discussion (most of the time) even if we disagree.

If he dislikes the alphabet thugs, believes trans women are con men, and doesn't agree with misogynistic comments, but actually sees me as a human being who happens to be a woman worthy or respect and have her autonomy honered then I don't care about his political beliefs.

We’re probably in the minority, but I totally feel you on this. I don’t like to talk politics with someone I don’t know well at the very least. For one, too many people find out you lean one way or another about a couple of issues and then assume they know how you feel about everything. I know politics is important to a lot of people when determining values compatibility, but in the U.S. at least I feel it’s become almost an obsession. I’m burnt out on it. It’s a long story, but I used to make politics my entire identity back when I was going through a rough time. I almost feel like I got out of a cult and now I want nothing to do with anything that reminds me of it. Yes, I want to know the person I’m dating is not an Alt-right Redpiller. I also want to know he’s not so left wing that he thinks trans rights are more important than women’s rights.

Also, men try to figure out what your politics are so that they can try and match that. The last man I dated assumed I was liberal, so he was liberal on the first date. One the second date we discussed that we both enjoyed shooting as a hobby. Because of that ONE thing he decided I must be a conservative instead and he magically became a conservative on the third date.

I would not be compatible for someone who is either hard left or hard right. I have found there are better ways for determining values compatibility than discussing politics outright, so I try to avoid it. If someone is reasonable, respectful of my differing opinion, and shares the MOST important values with me, I don’t really care what they identify as politically.

If someone is insistent that you talk about these things that you don't want to talk about, especially when they barely know you, that's your cue to leave. There are plenty of people out there who would rather discuss other things, like shared interests and hobbies. IME you find out more about someone's true values from little things they say during average conversations.

On (or before) date one, I mention 1) my political affiliation and 2) the fact that I do not enjoy discussing politics. I'm not confrontational about it. I just state these facts calmly.

The men who can't abide by my politics or my unwillingness to discuss politics tend to move right on.

You could ask questions about whether he believes in 50/50 and that women have the same rights as men. Helps to qualify men in, but it can cause a shitstorm from low value men.