How do you avoid ending up with a scrote who won't make you move wherever he moves to?

In your post, you say "You have to leave your town and the only people you know". But really, you don't have to do anything. Like Queen wrote, if moving away is a deal breaker for you, you should do some initial vetting. But if it does happen that he wants to move later on, you can always say no. Just because a man asks something of you, doesn't mean you need to comply. Then he'll have to decide if his job or his relationship with you is more important to him. This will reveal how he actually feels about you.

You can avoid that very easily: you say no. He can't "make" you do anything. Period. Doesn't matter if he is your boyfriend, husband or the father of your children.

Moving should always be a mutual decision that benefits both of you. If you don't want to move, do not move. If you don't want to move, the family does not move. It's as simple as that. If he truly loves you, he will respect that and decline that promotion or find another solution. If he tries to force the issue, it's time to end things.

It doesn't matter what your reason for not wanting to move is. You don't even need one. Your "no" should be all it takes.

Do you know who pressures someone to move away from their support system when they don't want to? Or you tries to force them to go to a "secondary location" where they have all the power and benefits? Abusers, predators and criminals.

What do you mean the answer is you don’t think you can? Like you can’t avoid it? Marrying a scrote and him moving you away is completely unavoidable? I disagree. If you follow FDS right, if he’s properly vetted before marriage, that wouldn’t happen. And before you marry someone, wouldn’t y’all talk about the possibility of moving away for work, or where you wanna live in the future?

Men are not as smart and manipulative as you think. There are gonna be signs to whether or not he’s a scrote. You’d find those out before marriage because you’re also not gonna rush into that.

If it's something you know you want to avoid/prevent, you could have a general conversation at some point in the getting to know you stage.

For example you could ask him if he's always lived in this town/city, and how he likes it? Then listen.  You can also ask questions about what he sees for his future and see for yourself if that lines up with you. Read between the lines, as always.

Obviously this can't predict whether he'll seek/get offered/take a job (for example) elsewhere at some point in the future, but you can get a sense of him from his answers (and your spidey sense of whether he's telling the truth).

Some people like traveling/moving for work, some don't. Men and women included. If he's not a good guy you wouldn;t want to be with him anyway and if you're vetting well enough it shouldn;t be an issue anyway...

If he's a rare HVM, and you know you don't want to leave, that's for you to decide and claim. At any stage. Take back your power.

This is something you want to discuss before marriage. There are actually services (my brother used one) where a counselor will get two people in a room together and will ask them a bunch of important questions in order to make sure they’ve discussed things like this and are on the same page before they get married.

Then if he pulls this on you, you can remind him that you discussed this prior to marriage and you won’t be relocating. I have elderly parents that I want to be close to, so this is a big dealbreaker issue for me too. It’s why when I used OLD I stopped responding to the men from out of state who messaged me. I found that 100% of the time, they were expecting me to relocate to be with them even though they contacted me.

Always have your name on the lease. Always have your own money. Female support is what women need socially, especially with kids. Don't let a man rip you from your social network - ever!