How do you answer the "what's your background" question?

It sounds like they have a fetish and want to know if your ethnicity matches that of the porn stars they whack off to. I’d block.

My Asian-American friends do get a LOT of this treatment. When they say "I'm from NYC" guys go "I mean where are you ORIGINALLY from". They say "I was born in NYC". They don't have an accent.

I'd be careful about men that date outside of their race for "experience" and ask this. They usually say "i've never been with a (race) girl before!" its a RED FLAG and you need to run.

Why do you want to have conversations with these guys? Isn't that an insta-block situation? You dont want to date a man after he asks you where you're "really from", do you?

Just because all the men on OLD have bad social skills, doesn't mean you need to lower your standards to accept men with bad social skills (and creepy ideas about women from certain ethnicities?)

Honestly though fuck those people. It’s such a personal question to ask and it most certainly is none of their fucking business. The level of entitlement is way out of line. I don't give uncivilised oafs time of day.

Worldly people understand the concept of modern nations having people of all ethnicities. I used to get stopped on the street mostly by old white scrotes demanding to know where I'm from. I am Asian.

I speak perfect English in my native accent and when one old guy from another country had the audacity to interrogate me I just laughed in his face.

Men ask me that a lot too. I block and delete. No one who has asked me that has ever brought anything good to my life.

"is there a funny or snarky or light-hearted response to this question that will satisfy a man's curiosity?"

Forget about trying to satisfy rando's curiosity. Don't waste your time trying to convince someone that what you are saying is truthful. If someone doesn't accept what you are stating at face value, then stop interacting with that person.

‘What’s your background?’, or ‘what’s your heritage?’ are very different questions to ‘where are you really from?’

I think the first two questions are ordinary and appropriate questions that indicate curiosity and an interest in getting to know me properly. The third question indicates ignorance and a lack of worldliness.

Pretending that we don’t have different ethnic backgrounds when we obviously do isn’t progressive or polite; it’s politically correct, awkward nonsense.

Don't worry about crafting a witty response to a BS question that doesn't warrant an answer. Reframe your question as "how can I stay positive and funny in the face of disrespect?" and realize how wrong that sounds. You don't owe men a "lighthearted" answer to anything. If something annoys you, show it. Preferably by blocking and deleting.

I don’t get why people get offended when asked this question? I ask it to people and people ask me all the time. Why is it bad? I’m very proud of where I’m originally from and I have certain values that align with my culture and background. I lived in Canada most of my life and I have a Canadian passport but I don’t hold onto western Canadian values. I’m not extremely

Open minded, etc. I think it’s very attractive to be from somewhere else and people should be proud and authentic.

In response to "No where are you really from?", you could respond with something like "Well...I was pretty sure I was born in (country). Do you know something about me that I don't?"

Another way to do it is to simply respond with "I don't understand." The more they push, you just keep saying, "What do you mean?", "I don't understand your question," etc.

Or you can turn it around on them. "I'll tell you where I'm really from if you tell me where you're really from," and then push the in the same way. And once you play that for a while, the answer to where you're "really" from will be...the same answer you gave the at the beginning.

Here’s one way to do it:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=crAv5ttax2I

I don’t have a problem with this question. It’s a totally normal thing to ask.