How do y'all perceive when a man is slow to follow up after a first date?

If a guy doesn't follow up he isn't interested....or he wants the woman to pursue him (there are a bunch out there that think the woman should be the ones pursuing!!!)

Either way it's a no for me dawg.

Don't fool yourself or make excuses for him, you know how you should be treated.

It's so easy to say but so difficult to do: Judge men by their actions. If he isn't in touch, he isn't interested. Women notice nuance and context when dealing with others. It's great and it serves us well in many areas of our lives, but it means we give men credit for things they aren't doing and haven't thought.

They don't get the benefit of the doubt, ever. If I don't hear from him by the next day at the latest, It's a block and delete. A man who wants to impress you is a man who wants you. He isn't going to risk another suitor getting in there! No need to interpret any riddles of give him the benefit of the doubt.

Even men who aren't interested in a second date should be following up to make sure you got home safely (unless it's like midday) and thanking you for your time, if they aren't doing that you know they're LVM who were raised without manners. Delete and move on👋

It's scrote behavior. For this whole affair to be in the benefit of the woman, the man needs to be more invested in her. He needs to be the one that likes her more. He needs to be the one that would compromise for her. He needs to want the relationship more and he needs to want a relationship in the first place. This excludes half of the men in your age range. Pumpers'n' dumpers don't need to invest into a relationship to have sex. If you're too much effort, he will "play it cool" because the guy is there for a hot pocket and some orgasms at the expense of you thinking you're in a relationship. Men need to chase and keep your attention. If he's playing it cool, he only wants sex and he's getting attention from elsewhere. If he's "undecided" you funny need to start proving yourself just to show him that you're worthy of his attention. If you start on that path, you start investing and he knows he got you as one of his plates. We're taking 18-38 year olds that grew with the normalization of red pill "teachings", hardcore pornography and the degradation of women as the regular thing on the menu. Before you start dating a man in this age range you need to remember that. The chances that he's playing some games with you are high.

If I didn't hear from him the same day we had a date, depends on how late it is though but otherwise I just fade myself. Bye boi

1. Not interested 2. He’s playing games (red pill) 3. All of the above

If they don't text me that night to make sure I got home ok, it's a pass. I would never allow a date to take me home (current bf aside because he is a neighbor and obviously knew where I lived already) so it is only sensible that a date should touch base with you the same day or evening as the date!

Idk but this makes me feel better for ghosting the guy who catfished me and then didn’t text me for 3 days

He's either not interested or insecure (that's why he play games). It doesn't really matter though, next him.

I assume they're one of the following:

1. Not that interested; usually don't hear back from then.

2. Waiting to hear from someone else who they're more interested in; frequently message back a few days later with a low effort "hey beautiful wyd" when their first choice knocks them back.

3. Married and their wife is acting suss; frequently lay low for a few days until the heat is off before they message back with some utter bs about serious work or family issues.

the one thing I hate about the ‘He’s just not that into you’ thing is that it makes it sound like men are out genuinely trying to find the right one, and it wasn’t a fit so he doesn’t want to hurt you. 90 percent of men are dating with no intention of anything but “getting” sex they believe they are entitled to as a “man” and they date to sleep around and get things FROM women. So if a guy isn‘t following up it’s probably not that you werent his type or did something it’s probably that he goes on dates often for sex and has a roster so he doesn’t get bored sleeping with one person. men are sick puppies unless a guy is out looking for his wife because he wants to get married and start a family like now, then he’s just looking to get something selfish.

Shouldn't he have already set up another date before ending the first date, or at least set up a time to call about setting up another date?

If he is interested, that's what I think he would do.

In my experience he most likely realized he can't get what he wants from you.

Sex, if he's a lying fuckboy, or a type or ideal relationship (if he looks to commit). Either way he lost interest.

You block and delete