I care for people's mental health in general, but I kinda get irritated when I remember how many men - in a gender discussion; try to point out how my most suicides are carried out by men. Then disregard that females attempt suicide more, just by less brutal/lethal means - which results in a higher survival rate. I understand men can feel ashamed to have some "sappy" emotions, but I think women do too. Women are often called catty, dramatic, bitchy when we express emotions or anger.
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Men's greatest mental illness is delusions of grandeur and society supports it. Giving them their own month just feeds into this.
Their suicide rate counts all the men who kill their wives and children before turning the gun on themselves. So yeah their suicide rate is a bit higher when you count how much they murder-suicide so they don't have to face the consequences of killing us.
I’m in favour of it. Let’s talk strategies about how we can get them to stop going on and on about themselves and their struggles with the patriarchy they created and fight to maintain the other eleven months of the year.
I mean...it would be great if men took their own month seriously by scheduling appointments with mental health providers and checking in on their male friends.
Are they doing this, though? I honestly don't know.
I routinely come across men who claim to struggle with some sort of mental health diagnosis as an excuse for shitty behavior or not adulting but fail to seek professional help to improve in any way.
Obviously they are traumatized from all these women going around raping, murdering, abusing, oppressing, and harassing them constantly.
I advocate for everyone receiving mental health care, but what bother me is that they expect us to support them while they are usually incapable of reciprocation.
If they'd take it seriously and accept some accountability for their issues, it would be a good thing... But my guess is that it's just a public "nobody cares about us poor men, boo hoo", another way to extort more emotional labor from women and make excuses for why they can't function in life at all (like the current wave of men blaming their utter unwillingness to do ANYTHING in the household on their "ADHD"). Most men don't support each other and if they do, they just spin tales about evil feminism destroying their lives and encourage each other to be "alpha". None of them own up to the role they play in their own demise.
Why "Men's Mental Health Month"? Why not just "Mental Health Month"? Are they implying that women never have mental health issues? Surely everyone would benefit by talking more openly about mental health?!
I feel this is entirely too indulgent towards men.
Society coddles men by default. This just coddles them more.
i really don't think they need an entire month dedicated to it.
i think a good slogan for tha would be: men's mental health is men's problem. take care of yourself, bro!
as long as they solve their own issues without leaching on women's emotional labor, i think it's good. sick men kill people.
>but I kinda get irritated when I remember how many men - in a gender discussion; try to point out how my most suicides are carried out by men. Then disregard that females attempt suicide more, just by less brutal/lethal means - which results in a higher survival rate.
it irritates me too! it's a very dumb and superficial way to view the problem. they always want to compete and say "seeeeee??!!?!?!? men die mooooooore! and it's all those feminists' fault! because they hate men wahwahwahwaaaaah! 😭"
THEIR mental health? I got my own to worry about! 😟
I'm for it but I don't want to see it promoted on any media or press aimed towards women. In other words, let GQ do a piece on Men's Mental Health Month. Don't have Self magazine do a piece on how to help your man during men's mental health month.
It should be largely organised, promoted and supported by men.
Men need to support each other more. Simple.
I feel like this is double sided. The Patriarchy hurts both sexes but not in the same way and not equally as much.
What's missing in these debate is class and social cultural and economic status. It's actually poor people from poor family's that struggle the most. It's not women vs men. It's people with all the privileges vs those who have none. Also how men and women are treated in those environments
We need be aware of himpathy as well. Mens problems are taken more serious than women's so we need to fight harder. I do think focusing on mens mental health is a good thing but they aren't doing it right.
Mens mental health should tackle the frying effects of porn
It should focus on the insane drug of video gsmes.
They should attack and change the algorithms that make Tate and people like him accessible to children.
They should tackle the entitlement that eventually ruins their life.
The conversation is only limited to comfortable and safe topics like emotions and issues like sitting still in School. We need to look at the society. How are men tought and raised to be violent? What is destroying their minds? How can we change that?
I think it would be a good thing if we can get men to talk to each other in a vulnerable way. Men put such a burden on women with all their problems. They load the women in their lives with their problems, or when they can’t, they blame us. Even when it should be logically impossible for us to be at fault, they find a way.
When a man brings up the male suicide rate, I simply say “Well duh. Men are always more violent than women. They’re violent towards everyone, including themselves.”
I think it’s important to reframe the male suicide rate as yet another example of men’s destructive and violent behavior.
I think it’s also important to remember that men often commit suicide after doing something cruel and inhumane, like murdering their family. For example, when men are sent to prison for crimes such as pedophilia, they are often automatically put on suicide watch because men often kill themselves when they’re faced with the consequences of their own choices.
I don't hate it, but I don't like it either.
It's hard to explain why for me.
But basically, I think it's great when men take their mental health seriously or care about others (men+woman) mental health. If they need a month to bring awareness and how to seek help I think it's good.
But I also don't like it because it seems the responsibility always falls on women. They blame us for why men have poor mental health, we are expected to book appointments and push them into seeing a doctor. So I feel like it can be a month to tell women why men are sad and can't take care of themselves.
There's also the thing that a man will go to therapy and not do any type of self reflection or put in any work and just throw their hands up and give up. I don't think many men are built for therapy because they truly don't want to improve.
But if they go to therapy they get the back pats of taking care of themselves without actually doing anything.
One of my brothers is a gross neck beard. To be fair he has developmental issues but he's very depressed and started therapy a year ago. Literally is still the same. He actually seems to be getting worse. But I know it's because he doesn't want to open up and talk and if he does he doesn't do the homework. But we all have to suffer with his angry outbursts.
On the other hand, my step father also has mental health issues but you wouldn't even know it because he takes his health seriously. With meds and therapy.
So this is why I'm not against that month because I think it's good for 1% of men. And until more men take their health into their own hands then I can't fully support it.
I am sick of hearing about it, quite frankly. Men "not being able to cry" is laughable compared to what women and girls have to deal with, I'm sorry but it is
I'm tired of hearing how women have people to talk to who will understand and support them, have family members, go to the dr a lot, don't die by suicide as much and perhaps the worst one of all; women aren't judged for their emotions like men are
In my view, mens mental health has nothing to do with feminism or women. Sort it out amongst yourselves, women aren't free therapists
Nothing wrong with raising awareness for men's mental health, but at some point it's up to the men to actually do something about it. If they had diabetes awareness month, but some diabetic people still refused to go to the doctor or change their eating habits, then at what point can you blame lack of awareness? Same thing with men's mental health: congratulations. You are aware that you have a problem. Now it's up to you to go to therapy, work on yourself and fix it. whining about your mental health is not a "get out of trouble free" card for men.