I have been seeing a lot of post on social media where women finds out their bf has only fan accounts, porn habit and goes to strip coun behind their back after years into relationships. A lot of men are good at hiding these habits and honestly it scares me becasue I don't want to waste my years to a man who was just good at lying and hiding. Not every men with excessive porn habit has erectile dysfunction, especially if they are young. So, it's hard to know solely based on physical Chemistry. Any advice?
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Dumb fox tactic: ask him early on what kind of porn he watches, act like you are cool with it then block after the date. Don't bother to tell him why. They will argue with you that you are the abnormal one and that you should be ok with him watching porn. Could even just ask him about a sexual fantasy and see if its pornbrained.
If their sense of humor is very dirty or sexual block them. Also includes porn lingo in his conversations.
If they want to discuss sex too soon or try to get physical too soon dump them.
If he's checking out other women while on dates with you his brain is porn fried.
If hes doing porn things to you (hopefully he will try these while making out and doesnt make it to the sex stage) such as: hands around your throat, spanking, slapping, putting fingers in your mouth, hair pulling.
Check his socials to see if he's following lots of accounts of women.
Don't date a former addict, sometimes they admit they used to have a problem then stopped.
If he's into anime asking which shows and seeing how sexual they are. Anime at all really lol.
Tell him you know a 20 year old dating a 50 year old and see if he says age is just a number (porn wires their brains to be attracted to teen girl bodies)
Porn completely fucks up their sexuality and their dopamine receptors. You'll get good at spotting it if you don't let your self be in denial and also get ruthless dropping guys.
Use of porn lingo is the most common one I've experienced.
If he uses sexual terms you are unfamiliar with, then his brain is porn-fried. No decent man should have this whole other sexual vocabulary that extends beyond the basic sexual vocabulary most people know.
Recently, I've dealt with a porn-sick scrote. Here's the signs he displayed:
-talked about women like porn category ("i only date ...blondes,bbw,latinas,petite,etc)
-too sexual too quick (asked about kinks, tried to ask your fav position)
-mentions being a dom or "daddy"
-bragging about how big he is or how good he is in bed
-sends unsolicited dick pics or uses porn lingo(MILF,BBC)
-talks about sex he had with other women in detail (yuck!)
-mention's anal, fisting, face-f***ng or anything that brings zero pleasure to a woman as his favorite thing
-mentions that he has issues finishing but flips out on you if you say something (fragile ego)
-followed +500 women on IG, most of them he met of Tinder and probably had a history with
-went to frat parties to meet younger drunk girls with friends (he was 25!!)
- tried to choke, slap or degrade you (my little sl*T) while making out or having sex with you
Instagram is a major telltale sign. He doesn’t even have to be following hundreds of women for it to be obvious. If he is following even a handful with the links in their bio, it’s time to block and delete. If he is following even one porn-like account, it is time to block and delete. If he is following any “sex workers” of any kind, block and delete.
- follows a bunch of girls on IG
- labels women as “hot” , “sexy”
- uses terms like “submissive”, “dominance”, “threesome”
- makes jokes that are related to sex in a conversation that has nothing to do with sex
- mentions porn or any other sex related things like only fans
- only finds girls who look young or under 25 atttactive
- thinks that women going towards or over 30 lose value
- only finds women with big breasts, small waist sexually attractive
- refers to “vanilla” sex as boring
- straight glaring
- eyes go straight to staring at your cleavage naturally
- big emphasis on ass, breasts
If he expects you to perform in bed or wear costumes (ie. lingerie). If he seems to believe that pornified behavior comes naturally to you. If he acts like pornographic acts are just regular parts of regular sex. - The tough part is determining any of this without actually having sex with him.