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You know, when someone is pressuring you to get married, and they keep bitching with you about it, it completely turns you OFF marriage, because why TF would I want to sign up for another round of bitching in a new living arrangement?
Does anyone honestly think they're going to be persuaded to get married if they're already being bitched at by someone else? As if I'm going to want more bitching than there already is. I tried telling him that but apparently my voice got a little louder than it was "supposed" to and he yells (louder than me) "TALK LOW!!!!!!"
It could be a cultural thing where women aren't supposed to talk louder than the man (yeah - let the men overpower her in an argument), and that's why he keeps caring about how loud I talk rather than actually listen to the words I say. 🤔
I just laugh these days, at people trying to get me to live my life the way they want.
Because you can be sure it doesn't end even if you follow their command and get married. Next they would tell you to have a kid. Then if you have a kid, they tell you to have another kid. Then they're pestering you about all the things you "have to" do as a mother. Up to and including making your kids get married and have their own kids. It never ends.
I would occasionally hear something from my parents that hints at how much they would like me to do the typical things in life. Key difference is they don't try to order me to do these things. They don't put on the pressure.
I lived away from my parents for years and then moved back to be close by because they need more help these days. So even just that, just taking a bit of time away, not cutting them off completely, can do wonders in showing them they need you more than you need them. When they realize that fact, they are more likely to stop taking you for granted and start treating you with respect.
Do you live with your dad?
Ask him if he thinks he's the perfect bitch why doesn't he go ahead and transition to show you by example
At some point you reach an age where you decide nobody, parents included, can disrespect you and still get to have access to you.
Aka this is a great way for them to lose their daughter completely and that also includes any support provided.
My parents depend on me for everything, and while they do want me to get married, they also know that they’d be fucked if I’m not around to help them pay their bills, handle all their papers, and drive their butts around town.