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So, a year ago, I made the mistake of dating a man twice my age. We had known each other for 2 years, and I only dated him for 2 months. I ghosted him after he told me his ex-wife had "committed suicide," and he immediately moved another woman into his apartment after his ex-wife had passed. His actions and the stories he told me showed signs of psychopathy and narcissism. He triangulated me, DARVOed me, gave me sob stories, love bombed me, frequently talked about how special he was and how all his exes were crazy, and how he's always the victim.Instead of breaking up with him, I just ghosted him because I was disgusted by his behavior.
Now, a year later, I'm starting to be scared of revenge. He told me how much he hated being ghosted, which is what I did to him. Not only did I ghost him, but I also blocked him everywhere, so he has no way of contacting me. I don't think he'll do anything right now because he still has things to lose. He had just begun his solo trip when I ghosted him. But what I'm scared of is when he has nothing to lose. Like when he gets older and has nothing to lose, he might track me down and seek revenge. He talked about hiring private investigators to "investigate" his ex-wife. What scared me the most is the fact that his ex-wife "committed suicide". Because there's a chance he might have unalived his ex-wife so that he could move another woman in.
How do I get rid of this fear?
Let people around you know. It might be embarrassing at first, but tell your boss and your landlord a guy might be trying to get into your life and to tell people who ask about you nothing.
Honestly if he's a narcissist he's probably already moved on to the next person a few times over. So be careful and let the ones around you know about him but hopefully you will never hear from him again
How far away do you live away from
Him?
It's been a year since he's last contacted you, right? Block him on everything if you haven't yet. Change your phone number if you're still worried, and block him on that too. Change your passwords. Chances are that he's moved on, it's been a whole year. Try to relax and focus on other things. I know it's hard. But sometimes it helps just to hang out with friends or watch a movie or work extra hours, to keep your mind off of things. You're not alone.
Watch some more true crime
Don't flatter yourself. He has moved on. It seems like you haven't.
He hasn't contacted you in a year. You sound pointlessly paranoid.
Stop manufacturing calamity when there is none.