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Hello sisters.
If you remember any posts made by me, I have been talking to this guy and we went out on two dates. I have been following FDS handbook for vetting and he passed every test.
However, our last date was now two weeks ago. I thought it was strange he did not invite me to a third, especially given that he texts me every day. He's been busy, and that's fine. But that's just now what I'm used to.
Normally guys would bombard me with requests for dates in an "ok we met today so let's meet up again in 2-3 days" and try to be with me as much as possible as well as trying to rush things between us.
I can't find it in the guide, but I could swear there is something in the FDS. the handbook that talks about the dangers of men who rush date after date. If someone could confirm this I would be very grateful.
Could someone point out to me what I should do in this case? Is the HVM I went on dates acting normal? If he's not interested then why does he keep texting? Or is it a he's not that into you L for me?
Your intuition is correct, no man who's interested would let two entire weeks go by. You might meet another man or forget about him. He's not interested. Don't take it personally. Maybe he's deep down hardcore MAGA. Maybe he's still in love with his ex who dumped him for being a horrible boyfriend. Maybe he's got a micro penis. Maybe he's just not attracted to you because his brain is fried from insta models and porn. Maybe you aren't his type (if you're short fit brunette maybe he prefers rail thin blond, or tall redheads).
Maybe he thinks you'll be desperate enough to chase him around and throw pussy at him. Maybe he's an Andrew Tate fan behind closed doors. My ex claimed to be a pro choice libertarian, he was a vaccinated well traveled nurse so I dated him only to find out he gets Fox news notifications on his iPad. You literally do not know this man at all, and you don't know a man until you've known him a year or so. How he is in a crisis, when he's lonely and horny (cheater?), How he is when you're not just fun fun fun fun fun.
I know it's hard, but having been dumped by a guy who DID want a third date, and a fourth, and a 25th, it hurts a lot fucking more later on.
First: Is this the man who asked you out for coffee as a first date? If so, it figures.
Second: Yes, FDS is against lovebombing and rushing to go on date after date. A man who behaves this way is looking to get into your pants fast and disappear just as fast. Ask me how I know.
Third: Yes, two weeks is too long to wait to make concrete plans with you. Unless he told you explicitly that he'll be out of town or extremely busy, he's testing you to see how you'll respond when he pulls away. In other words, he is playing games with you. And FDSers do not allow themselves to be played with.
Bottom line: If I were you, I'd give him one more week at most to make concrete plans. If he doesn't do it by that time, you will need to implement the old block and delete and never look back. I think that's being quite generous (on your part) already.
2 weeks and no plan of a date definitely is a red flag. Texting is low effort, you can easily text a rotation of women at once.
I get being busy and not seeing someone for two weeks, but it is strange to not even make future plans to see you again after this much time passing. And yes, to second what someone already said, it needs to be concrete plans, not some vague "let's get together later" with no plan.
If something is important, you make time for it even when busy.
Be wary of letting him keep you hanging on with a textlationship. Like someone else already said, it's easy to text multiple women at once.
This is what some scrotes do - dazzle women with small amounts of good treatment (such as a couple of good dates), keep the women hanging on with texts, deliberately make the women feel desperate for more, so it's easier to use the women later.
These scrotes can't keep up their facade in person for too long, that's why they operate like this.
Is this guy one of those scrotes? Is that his true form? Sorry to say it's looking likely.
At least you're seeing this pretty early on, so you have a chance to avoid getting sucked in deeper.
Agree with the other ladies
A plausible scenario is that because you followed FDS and didnt chase him, he's playing with you so that you chase him so that he can mess you around
I agree with the comments here. I feel your pain I really do :( You need to let him miss you here. Go awol for a few days. See what he does. Then you’ll definitely have your answer x
Teo weeks is too much.!I don’t care if he is playing games, or ou don’t want someone who plays with you anyways. A man who’s interested will make plans with you very soon, right after the second date. I think he is dating other women and is not interested enough. Let him go