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It's probably not HV of me, to think like this. But, I can't help feeling some kind of way about this entire situation. I am mostly into working out and doing skincare and stuff, cooking healthy meals. This girl in my circle has been the complete opposite of me, in terms of all this.
Ever since the day I got diagnosed with cervical spondylosis and been asked to stop lifting and such, I have been pretty much resting at home, and feeling like shit, because putting pressure on and around my neck muscles, really hurt and have been sharing all this with her. She knew that I can't take care of myself, like before, and as a result dealing with a bout of depression. I have even stopped caring about my skin, I just have the minimum energy to wash it with water and soap. I always feel groggy from all the pain meds.
She knows everything, and somehow I feel like, as a gut feeling, that she has started turning it all against me. I don't want to straight up bad-mouth her. But the day I told her all this, something clicked in her head and she immediately joined a gym, and started sending me pictures and saying "look how much I have worked out today, damn, the trainer worked me, I look sexy" like EVERY SINGLE DAY. She was so against exercising, that this comes as a huge surprise to me. She has also started spending over 10k on skincare and dermatology appointments and telling me all that as well, when she never cared once if she had a pimple or such, but now my inbox is being filled with pictures of her, with captions "I'm glowing so much, right?"
I understand if she wants to level up, we all do and I support her, but by the tone she's been telling me all this, that too, every living breathing moment of her time, I genuinely can't help but feel she's enjoying my condition and rubbing it on my face.
Now, she's been telling me how men are turning her way, while she works out. I'm like - I guess good for you?
I don't want to jump to a conclusion, that's why I am asking you ladies. What have I been feeling? Could be jealousy? But again, I have other friends who work out as well, but the difference is they never rub it in my face, while I'm wriggling with pain. My gut feeling is literally telling me, that she's enjoying all this.
Any time you get that feeling - listen. The feeling is never wrong.
Having had pickme friends before in my life, I can tell you this much: If there's ever a moment where they can hit you below the belt and get away with it, they always do so. If you feel it in your gut that someone is trying to make you jealous, your instinct is correct. I'd dump this so called friend if I were you.
RUN! I've had friends like these. She's jealous and trying to make you feel inferior, I promise she's not your friend.
You’ve correctly identified that she is ::rubbing it in your face:: while you are recovering. Who does that?? Disordered jackasses who get off on your pain do. Fade out/grey rock/block & delete this horrible person.
This is what I call a foul weather friend. It’s the same as a LVM that you trauma-bond with because let’s face it, your injury is a low-level trauma. And from another woman you expect empathy, sympathy, and kindness. Nope, much like a scrote she is using your weakness and pain to level up, putting you down to make herself feel better. Feel free to ghost and move on.