Wow, I really love this for you. These are the kinds of level-up fds sucess stories that make waiting for a HVM and not settling for any scrotes all the more worth it. I wish you all the best in your relationship and life overall. Btw your room looks so beautiful, I love the color combination you have with your wall and bed set!
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Dec 08, 2023
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Beautiful story, and beautiful bedroom. Well done ❤️
This is so wholesome 😭 and exactly what a man should be doing, adding value and making sure your living space is cozy! LVM take and take, a relationship with a HVM sounds wonderful. This is the first time in a long time that reading or hearing about a woman's relationship with her man has not filled me with dread because of how LV he sounds.
He is extremely respectful of everyone he meets. Both genders , every age, every background. He’s just a good guy.
Worked extremely hard and also worked through college and grad school , never asked for help . Made sure my mom and my siblings were well taken care of . He’d still do anything for us .
Has a lot of interests and hobbies and takes care of his health … zero vices .
Does volunteer work as well.
He’s a rarity . Can’t find anyone with these qualities that’s single . Heaven knows I tried .
1. My fiance: he’s success/growth minded, generous, hardworking, selective with who he surrounds himself with (cuts off low value friends and calls out men around him when they are being scrotes), etc. He has also been incredibly supportive for the last few years as I’ve been working on my PhD, and has done so many things to make my life easier and more comfortable in this process. In addition, he’s supported and facilitated many of my endeavors outside of academia, and helped me develop hobbies and do things that I wouldn’t have started or had the courage to do without his help (like certain backpacking trips or travel).
2. My PhD advisor. Although I don’t have a close enough relationship with him to be sure, he seems very high value to me. I’ve known him and been his student for 4 years now and feel very lucky. He is very dedicated to his wife and family, to the point of switching where he lived and got his own PhD when he met her during a study abroad program. He talks about his wife a lot and clearly loves her a lot after being married for 30+ years. He is extremely supportive of his daughter’s career and is clearly very proud of her and talks about her a lot, even though she is working on something very stereotypically “girly” compared to his career path. He also regularly uses his vacation time to help his kids move or drive with them across the country if they need him to. He also has one of the best track records in my field of mentoring women. He has a large number of students, and more than half of them are women, even though our field is very male-dominated. He is very supportive to his students and their outcomes and career placements are much better than the average for our field. He has created an amazing network and community for women to thrive together.
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Dec 09, 2023
Yes, I will help you ladies out. I have 2 brothers and I have 20+years of data. LOL
Brother 1: worked hard in school, had a job since 16. graduated with stem degree, got a job. has never been unemployed. met wife via dating app. he had a not so good experience with females who thought he was "boring." but he never did cofee dates, always dinner. he met his wife, and in 6mos asked me to help get her a ring. they were married 5 mos later. it's quick because she was high quality and he knew he had to get her asap. in 3 years, they had a house, 2 cars, 2 dogs and a cute baby. wife has gotten several promotions because hes a great husband, manages house cleaning, and dinner for the child. he also gives me great advice and provides my mom with household items she needs. he's not perfect, but def HVM. i will marry someone like him.
Brother 2: THE WORSE. dropped out of school from partying too hard. I helped him enroll, and he didn't finish due to partying. he dodged his student loan bill for 10 years by constantly changing his address. he's lived on the couches of least a half dozen friends/family members over the last 10yrs. he's in his current place for 8 mos, we pray he stays lol. has had warrant for his arrest for unpaid traffic tickets. has totaled 3 cars. he's very attractive so women throw themselves at him. he knows this, and disrepects all of them. they OFFER to pay his way for food, he ghosts them and gets a new one every month. He is a pickme magnet. None of us like him lol. my parents are done with him. and my parents DID NOT coddle him, they raised us to be independent. problem is all his friends are lvm. i would never date someoe like him or even allow him to watch my dog.
so ladies, don't settle. I have seen this play out my whole life. HVM do exist and so do LVM. At the first sniff of LVM behavior, ditch him. your instincts are correct.
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He is extremely respectful of everyone he meets. Both genders , every age, every background. He’s just a good guy.
Worked extremely hard and also worked through college and grad school , never asked for help . Made sure my mom and my siblings were well taken care of . He’d still do anything for us .
Has a lot of interests and hobbies and takes care of his health … zero vices .
Does volunteer work as well.
He’s a rarity . Can’t find anyone with these qualities that’s single . Heaven knows I tried .
I'm biased here, but so far my husband :
Very supportive of my goals
Does thoughtful things on his own
Takes me on lovely dates
Super considerate of those around him
Has a good career
Does things that need to be done
Prioritizes us getting a home and financial security
Is surrounded by HVM friends who are great to their wives
Is surrounded by strong women and HVM family who also call out scrote behaviour
Calls out scrote behaviour when he sees it
I can think of two off the top of my head
1. My fiance: he’s success/growth minded, generous, hardworking, selective with who he surrounds himself with (cuts off low value friends and calls out men around him when they are being scrotes), etc. He has also been incredibly supportive for the last few years as I’ve been working on my PhD, and has done so many things to make my life easier and more comfortable in this process. In addition, he’s supported and facilitated many of my endeavors outside of academia, and helped me develop hobbies and do things that I wouldn’t have started or had the courage to do without his help (like certain backpacking trips or travel).
2. My PhD advisor. Although I don’t have a close enough relationship with him to be sure, he seems very high value to me. I’ve known him and been his student for 4 years now and feel very lucky. He is very dedicated to his wife and family, to the point of switching where he lived and got his own PhD when he met her during a study abroad program. He talks about his wife a lot and clearly loves her a lot after being married for 30+ years. He is extremely supportive of his daughter’s career and is clearly very proud of her and talks about her a lot, even though she is working on something very stereotypically “girly” compared to his career path. He also regularly uses his vacation time to help his kids move or drive with them across the country if they need him to. He also has one of the best track records in my field of mentoring women. He has a large number of students, and more than half of them are women, even though our field is very male-dominated. He is very supportive to his students and their outcomes and career placements are much better than the average for our field. He has created an amazing network and community for women to thrive together.
Yes, I will help you ladies out. I have 2 brothers and I have 20+years of data. LOL
Brother 1: worked hard in school, had a job since 16. graduated with stem degree, got a job. has never been unemployed. met wife via dating app. he had a not so good experience with females who thought he was "boring." but he never did cofee dates, always dinner. he met his wife, and in 6mos asked me to help get her a ring. they were married 5 mos later. it's quick because she was high quality and he knew he had to get her asap. in 3 years, they had a house, 2 cars, 2 dogs and a cute baby. wife has gotten several promotions because hes a great husband, manages house cleaning, and dinner for the child. he also gives me great advice and provides my mom with household items she needs. he's not perfect, but def HVM. i will marry someone like him.
Brother 2: THE WORSE. dropped out of school from partying too hard. I helped him enroll, and he didn't finish due to partying. he dodged his student loan bill for 10 years by constantly changing his address. he's lived on the couches of least a half dozen friends/family members over the last 10yrs. he's in his current place for 8 mos, we pray he stays lol. has had warrant for his arrest for unpaid traffic tickets. has totaled 3 cars. he's very attractive so women throw themselves at him. he knows this, and disrepects all of them. they OFFER to pay his way for food, he ghosts them and gets a new one every month. He is a pickme magnet. None of us like him lol. my parents are done with him. and my parents DID NOT coddle him, they raised us to be independent. problem is all his friends are lvm. i would never date someoe like him or even allow him to watch my dog.
so ladies, don't settle. I have seen this play out my whole life. HVM do exist and so do LVM. At the first sniff of LVM behavior, ditch him. your instincts are correct.
thought this guy in the class was a HVM but one time he blatantly told that 'female work' doesnt count as real work, so... tht was tht
nope. medium value ais the best i've encountered.
I believe I have twice in my life. I was engaged during knowing the both of them.