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So after reading through bad reviews of Tinder, Lexa, Badoo, and Bumble, (all the reviews said these apps were basically a cash grab and it's not worth spending 25 euros a month just to be able to chat online), I decided to look for Free dating apps and sites. Found at least two local websites (this is the Netherlands), that claim to be free, with no in-app purchases.
Knuz --> https://www.knuz.nl/
and
Happypancake --> https://www.happypancake.nl/
My question is: anyone here have some experience using these sites? Like I've never heard of either of these websites before. And I wonder:
Would HVM use free dating sites that don't require any paid subscription? Like is that something a HVM would do? Can we find HVM on these sites?
I did some searching before making an account. And website Knuz allows you to see some profiles without logging in. (Which is a red flag: because it would also mean others can see you, without even making an account... but anyways,). The women in my age range all seem normal and interesting, but the site mentions they all "have not logged in for a long time". So I doubt they'd be active enough to respond. (Also a lot of the profiles are from people who live far away from me: in a different part of our country...) Another red flag I noticed: the site's blog was last updated in April 2018. So maybe this site is not that well maintained?
Happypancake's blog was last updated in March 2020. Another red flag: writer of the blog suggests that "if you argue/fight with someone a lot, that means you really love them" or "oftentimes the person you argue with the most, is the person you love most." --> in Dutch --> https://blog.happypancake.nl/5-soorten-ruzies
Which is such a toxic message to send and promotes unhealthy behaviors in relationships with others. If the people who run this dating community think this way about relationships, I think that's saying something about the site as a whole.
Anyway back to Knuz. I searched through the men of my age range on that site... And was a bit disappointed by the profiles. One of them (for example) finds it important to inform us that he "has a lot of experience". As if that is a good thing? However compared to the women (of my age range) on Knuz, the men are more active: "has logged in these past 3 months". What could that mean?
Would a HVM use sites like these?
Is it safe to use sites like these?
Should I avoid sites like these, and just pay for a premium membership on Lexa or something?
Lexa --> https://www.lexa.nl/
Another red flag for Knuz: I looked and I don't see anywhere an option to delete your account when you want to stop dating. So my suspicion is that people simply stop logging in when they no longer want to date. But then your profile will be always there... And that's not really something I want. (Also gives the wrong idea to people who want to date, when there's so many profiles that are not in-use.)
Green flag for Happypancake because it specifically explains how to delete your profile when you stop dating/get into a relationship: on this page --> https://happypancake.supportbee.io/508-happypancake-nederland/3299-account-verwijderen/8884-account-verwijderen Which is cool they give you that clarity upfront.
Personal experiences using 100% Free Dating sites in your area? (I mean you can share your experiences with other websites that perhaps are not in use here, but are in-use locally in your country.) Have you found positive outcomes from using free websites for dating?
I've never done Online Dating before, and am considering it. But I'm also not totally sure and don't want to waste money on something if it doesn't offer anything useful. And I'm not sure these free dating sites are as safe to use as more well known established sites that are pay-to-use (like Bumble).
Open to hearing any and all opinions and advice.
"Would HVM use free dating sites that don't require any paid subscription? Like is that something a HVM would do? Can we find HVM on these sites?"
No.
Again, no.
Finally, no.
Further... HVM don't use dating sites.
(Rare ones might, but the odds are stacked against you meeting them.)
Have you read the handbook?
my first take is that if you invest in a dating site, you’ll weed out the men who are cheap. then again, most men typically make more money than women (not sure how it is in the Netherlands), so it’s not going to be as great of an investment, and they might not take it as seriously as you.
as with any investment, never invest what you aren’t prepared to lose.
also: vet, vet, vet.
also: if you find any ridiculous profiles, please post them here 😂
Men on dating apps are there for sex ! And pass their time they never take you seriously never !!!! You are not a lady he met and talking to you are what he would say to his mates “ this chick I met online ” they just never seem to respect you low ball you like crazy and think just because you put yourself out their online he can act entitled and get free sex from you all the time wasted on swiping can be used to socialise and meet someone in organically
Based on all the red flags you have given for these dating sites, if those two dating sites were the equivalent of men, I wouldn't date them.
I haven't dated in a while and recently joined only firedating.me
It's been going well so far-- lots of financially literate men there.