Guys who post thirst traps

It’s not harmless. He’s trolling for attention and validation on a digital platform, and for what reason? Does he want to show off for a woman who refused his advances before he looked good? Is he seeing what options are out there? Posting this is a call to other women - low-effort enough that he can wait for women to pursue him and seemingly harmless enough that he can claim that’s not the reason why he did it.

If he’s not a somatic narcissist already, he’s on his way to becoming one, and he’s one step closer to entertaining women in his DMs and cheating on you. Don’t naively believe what he says.

Snoop through his phone, be diligent about his behavior and other red flags, but don’t be surprised that a man who suddenly decides he wants online attention isn’t 100% into you.

Men do all this yet still insist women aren't visual.

I had an ex that did this.. He started deleting my comments when he started cheating on me. Then later he blocked me on Social Media but still contacted me via text/wanted to spend time together. His excuse was his account got “hacked.” When, the truth was he didn‘t want the other women on his page to know I was one of his spinning plates.

I’d question if those people liking, following and commenting are really “just random people” A lot of people get their followers from Online dating. Also, Straight men typically don’t like posting muscle selfie’s on IG so there’s a chance he might be gay/bi and is using you for his own personal benefit. (House keeper/Car rides/A potential free surrogate/social status)

Comment some heart emojis/compliments on his photos and see if he deletes them. Tag him in some photos of both of you together, mention he’s your bf and you’ve been dating x amount of time. If he tries to hide it then, I’d block and delete him for that.

If you want closure or want to warn other women then, I’d message the women following him/sending him likes and ask how they know him/found his page.

Don’t be hostile though because these women probably have no idea he’s with you. Inform them that he’s been in a relationship with you. Some may be pick me’s that’ll believe his lies and call you crazy but you might be able to save another woman from wasting her time.

Posting a bikini pic (of you at the pool or beach) and a guy posting a shirtless pic are two different things.

There's no need for him to post it.

His behavior is not harmless and he probably didn't block the girl. He just deleted the comment as to not piaa you off further.

I'd tell him to delete the pic or I'd be gone.

Men on social media are to be watched out for/

It would make me wonder what he feels he's missing that he needs to seek it out via suddenly posting gym selfies

All men who have so much as sent me an unsolicited selfie turned out to be complete narcissists.

Sir no one has asked to see you shirtless.

Usually, I have ready answers for questions regarding social media conduct, but this time I don’t.

Your boyfriend’s behavior is just bizarre...it feels mildly homosexual, moderately narcissistic, and extremely immature.

How old is he? Posting thirst traps sounds like something a man in his teens or early 20s would do. Past age 25, it’s very cringe.

I’m confused, more than anything.

I wouldn't say it means he's planning to cheat on you, but it seems he has a void to fill in his ego. I personally find this very unattractive in men, but then again I find it unattractive in all people and plenty of women post stuff online for validation and likes. Many people want to be validated on their physical appearance, and while it's somewhat immature, it's also very common to have some of these insecurities. You said he's only 23 so this could be forgivable. That said if the female attention makes you uncomfortable then just tell him that and see how he reacts. Would he stop posting if you asked him to?

Ask him if he would be ok if you posted a bikini picture.

They're for the streets. A woman doing the same would be called all kind of misogynistic slurs.

I have found from experience that when a male is posting selfies and body pics of himself, it is a yellow or red flag that he might be on the DL with men. Or at least curious and open to the idea.. When men appreciate their looks a little too much, it makes me give them a side eye..it's a short leap to appreciating other men's looks. If he constantly staring at himself, appreciating his looks, posting selfies and body pics, I immediately think he might be gay.

Maybe he's bisexual

I feel like if he posted a before and after picture because he had really dramatic results that he got by being very dedicated and consistently working hard that would be one thing.... And even then it could only be a one time post. But I feel like posting post work out pictures is weird...

Omg I’d be furious!! If he has a problem with you posting pics like that then that would be a no no for me. A shirtless pic tells me he's looking for attention hands down. I've seen a lot of guys like that.

No —- if I’m looking for a future husband, he will not be posting shirtless photos of him anywhere. I don’t post any pictures of me on social media and no bikini pictures anywhere. I expect the same as it’s not elegant or classy to flash yourself to people looking for external validation or attention

Going to be the lone voice here saying that it's probably harmless. This is an Isolated incident and you don't need to make it into something bigger unless your instincts give you other flags. In general 23 Is young for a man. I don't know how old you are But I assume you are around the same age. Social media is something that this is something that older and younger people see completely differently. You have already discussed your feelings openly with him. If it continues and you still feel uncomfortable Share that with him and see what his reactions are. Personally I have had a bad situation with a younger ex related to Facebook. He went as far as giving me his passwords and guess what - he was still cheating. I think in general You probably have a good man because he knows what it was like to be unattractive which means his personality has had to develop. TLDR don't lose any sleep over this unless something else happens.

P.S. my favourite kind of man is one with no social media!

Is his account private and/or does he only have friends and family on it? I could see posting before and afters when it comes to weight loss or body building, but it’s giving me really bad vibes that you’re calling them thirst traps.

I am visual and if I like what I see I leave a funny comment along with heart eyes emoji. Especially if he doesn't skip leg day! I have no shame.