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I matched with a man who has a professional career, graduated from a prestigious school, and is looking for a serious relationship on his profile. He seems nice and likes cats and dogs.
He messaged me first and said I have a nice smile. He responds to me once everyday, but only at nighttime, and just responds to me/answers me — doesnt ask me any questions or add onto the conversation.
He asked me pretty early on if we can have a date (3 days after we matched). I just find it concerning he doesnt seem to want a lively texting conversation. When he asked for a date he asked whether we can meetup soon or talk on the phone, but other than that he never brought up a phone call again.
We are going out this Saturday but I am concerned whether he is meh about me but going out with me just cause. I also don’t know if Im just being paranoid. I do know frequent texting = false intimacy and it should be a green flag that he wants to meet me soon in person, but I feel like if he was interested in me he should put more efforts in our messages?
Should I give him a chance anyways by going to our date on Sat?
To give a timeline:
16feb - matched on hinge
19feb - asked me out on date
24feb - when our date is planned to be
From 16 feb until present he has only messaged me once per day and only responds to what Im saying, he diesnt ask me any questions about myself.
The only texts at night thing kinda giving married vibes....
“He… said I have a nice smile.”
That’s an immediate block and delete.
100% of men who say this in the first few OLD messages are looking for warm holes. He is actively hunting women for sex, and you conveniently fell into his trap.
This man will not be your partner. He may be your rapist.
Move on.
P.S. Whether or not he is married is irrelevant. There are too many red flags even without him being married.
The texting at night thing throws me off. I had a guy that would only text me after midnight and I called him on it and he got defensive. I think he was cheating.
What the actual living hell does this post have to do with FDS whatsoever. Go ask Goddamn Cosmo your question.
The answer is the man hates you and texting and OLD aren't valid forms of human communication.
The lack of effort in asking anything about you and not adding meaningfully to the conversation is an instant nope from me.
Effort = interest.
Have you Googled to see if what you know about him checks out? I agree with others he is married.
Is this a joke ! He says that to every lady he matches with “ you have a nice smile “ we women Shoudl know this now
You lost me after only responds at night....block him
If you ever find yourself confused about a man, it's time to break up with him.
Why is there so many OLD related posts on here ?? 99.99999% of men on there are LV. It's against FDS principles to give your time to LVM or OLD apps/sites.
🚩using online dating apps when it's filled with the leftover dudes NOBODY WANTS
🚩responding to their night texts when they message everyone with a pulse during those hours
🚩 He has No social skills in person
🚩Wanting to have conversations with him through text when it's false intimacy and the guy is literally just on the toilet during these times
🚩Doesn't put any energy to do basic calls
This will be his BEST efforts if you decide to allow him into your life. It will only go down from here I promise. If he's already causing confusion it's the sign for me because when they like you they hate it when you're confused.
i think you should follow your gut. if you feel funny about going out with him, than it's a no. you could still go out with him to a very public place, please, and check the vibe (some people suck at texting but are nice in person). but i think you already lost interest because he doesn't seem that motivated to talk to you. too much texting is a red flag, but almost no texting is also a red flag. with men anything can be a red flag, really. if you actually go out with him, vet properly and stay safe!