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Was speaking to this guy 2 years ago never slept with him he moved away and we reconnected recently as he was coming back to our hometown. I’ve always fancied this guy he is my type to a T but I have only slept with 4 guys and never wanted to sleep with him easily. I had urges too (I’m young and I have eyes) the sexual attraction is there but I didn’t want to open my legs up for this guy when we were just getting to know each other. Anyway a friend of mine who I’ve become more distant to as of recent but still consider a friend used to talk to me about this guy I met him through her as she was always telling me how much he found me attractive etc and that he had a crush on me. He had spoke to me about this mutual friend of ours before and said he found it unattractive how many guys this girl has slept with (it’s a lot no offence to her) and he would never want to settle down with a girl like her. He got back in contact with me around a month ago and was saying all the right things and more asking me if he would be seeing me and complimenting me to the high heavens. I haven’t heard off him since he arrived back in our home town but he kept liking all my stories on social media??? I didn’t reach out to him and never have, he’s always contacted me first and I’ll never chase a man.
Anyway I found out he went home with my friend on the weekend? She knows I had a previous Intrerest in him and is meant to be my friend it’s just so weird. She also did this to another girl we know and went home with a guy her friend was seeing I called her out on this. I am finding it hard not to internalise this and wonder why he went back with her…i know he’s not my property but it’s just disappointing.
If this guy didn't care to stay in touch with you and develop a relationship the first time he had a chance, he was just coming back around this time to see if he could "play" with you. He's just a typical player who didn't really want you to begin with. I'm not trying to be mean, just realistic about what he showed you (and it does not mean you have low value because he did this; he's just an ass). I avoid viewing any men from my past as dating potential for these reasons.
That girl isn't your friend, and be happy that they did you this favor of showing you exactly who they both are. That opens up space and room to bring better people into your life and better potential partners. This is so much better than going along thinking these two held you in high esteem only to find out down the road after more investment on your part that you were wrong. They did you a favor. Let them have each other.
Sounds like he just wanted sex and knew your friend was up for it. Your friend sucks for going home with him, and the guy sucks for playing you. I'd ditch them both if I were you.
You mean ex-friend
Also block him
He showed his LV ass to you. I hope this helps you get over any crush or feelings you had.
I don’t condemn the girl. She can sleep with whoever she wants. This doesn’t mean you should keep her as a friend: she engages in behaviors that put her body at risk, and you probably want to move on to more HV women friends.
But if he were HV he wouldn’t have gone home with her. He’s a scrote.
What a disappointment :( Sending hugs x