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Be honest.
And, as we know men are obsessed with power, how do you respond when they ask WhAt Is YoUrS? which of course is a curiosity or "tit for tat" thing, not out of any real safety concern for themselves, or they would've asked prior to asking to meet you.
Could I head it off at the pass with, when he asks me out, something like this so he knows to not even go there with me?
"I’ve noticed that not one man has been hesitant to meet me prior to asking for my full name. I get it, men don’t have those same types of safety concerns when engaging with women!
Of course (as the person with the smaller, weaker, less sexually aggressive body to protect), I do have to have those safety concerns. This isn’t a trivial power or curiosity thing for me, it’s a much bigger deal. So I would be much appreciative of a full name from you before agreeing to go out! Thank you :)"
ETA: Just realized they could provide a fake name. Any tips on getting the real one?
Edit 2: facecheck.id just lead me to discover a match's name and thus criminal record, which in a nutshell lead to finding out he did 3 years in prison for an organized credit card fraud scheme about a decade ago, and no he was not a young man when he did it. I don't know what prompted me to do the search but....holy shit! Anyway I recommend this tool, it's free.
I have never asked for a man’s full name before a date, but I can often find it online after 0-1 dates with a combination of his first name, college he attended, current job title/employer, dates of school/work, etc. Ask mundane questions for info-gathering, then google. Then search social media and court records. If you really wanted to ask, I can imagine doing so in a fluffy way, and brushing off if he asks you back.
Great tip to use their photos to try to match to their identity! I haven’t tried that before.
With the exception of maybe three men, every man I have ever met from OLD has been atrociously LV. I am in my late 30s and have used OLD since 2009, if that gives you an idea of how many LV scrotes I've encountered.
Two of the three men provided their first and last names before meeting me and without my having to ask.
It really should be that easy.
I'm not saying a man is automatically LV if he doesn't offer his first and last names on his own, but I am saying an HV man would think ahead and want to make his potential date feel safe. Having a full name and Google-able details, among other things, are part of what makes a woman feel safe.
yes, always.
great intel!!! thank you, queen.
I only dates online once for 2 weeks, and I didn't ask for full names, because I was meeting them in public places and not going anywhere with them afterwards. But if you can get their real, full name out of them, he might actually not be a married serial killer. So there's that.🤣