FDS women in the wild

I don't find them at all. They will pretend to be on the same page when they are angry with how they are treated but they all eventually turn on me for below par, low effort scrotes.

I agree that most women are pick mes I don’t even go out with them at night because they either put themselves in danger or put me in danger because of a man. But the best thing you can do is hang out with women who are sick of men and want nothing to do with them. Chances are high that they are on girl code. Also seek out the women who are older than you for wisdom and and are also a little protective of you. Most of the women I talk to are older. I even have senior friends simply because women my age are either baby mamas or boy crazy. And you can also create your own friends by handing out the FDS handbook and plant your seed. Always seek like minded ppl.

You probably won't find them first of all... theres a reason sheraseven has few if any close friends. And secondly, what do you mean suss out, most of them will make it abundantly clear in the first 15 minutes of talking to them. But if I had to choose one clear indicator its the types of books she reads, ask for a recommendation. If it's all fantasy love stories or they don't even read, thats one of those...

'Most women are pick mes'. Sad but true, we are heavily conditioned, socialized trained and faux 'rewarded' for being this way.

I even recently found myself in a space of women who I really was shocked by how icky pick me they largely were. These were seemingly (extremely**!) ambitious, independent women... but my gawd the neediness, desire for validation and pick-me-ness in so. many. ways. It is so repelling once the veil is down. And once we know how toxic it is. Also, I was looking at a course recently for a particular modality, and the tone of it was all 'womens empowerment' etc. It looked great and the woman running it - really in her power. I was going to sign up and then today I happened to see another ad for it, but it was all about the male gaze?! And how you will benefit men and 'be attractive' to them by doing this work. Just took the juice out of it for me.

Ick.

A bit of a rant, but feeling you very much.

i think the key, or what I try to do, is to embody the high value qualities myself, and maintain strong boundaries. You have to get very ok with being on your own. That said, women are wired for connection. So if you're game, I would, selectively, tease/test certain concepts with women who you sense may be open and see how they respond over the short/medium/long term. Just be careful because a pick-me will protect her world view visciously so you need to be prepared for this.

The more you embody the HVW qualities, the more you will attract others operating on the same wavelength. (Also the more you will attract users/takers/pick mes etc trying to take advantage, but you can smell them a mile off and disengage).

Alternatively, start a club/book club in the tone of what you're seeking and market it to find like minded women.

It's like dating. Let them find you or let your paths cross naturally. But the ways I've been able to tell if women truly don't center men is when they make choices in my presence that show me she is putting herself first, above all else, every single time.

They should seem "selfish" and "high maintenace" and even "heartless" at times.

If she leaves the dinner early because she has things to do. If she removes herself from a group that isn't serving her. When she is on top of her health and check ups. When she takes up space and voices her opinions but in a way that has some couth to it. When she's not afraid to disagree with people. When she has hobbies. When she has a whole world and life outside of dating that she talks about frequently.

If she's always doing what's best for her and if she seems in love with herself and in love with her own high standards and priorities (no matter what is going on around her), that's the type of friend I want...

People don't realize how patriarchal things actually are.

FDS is a tiny sliver. Until men start getting drafted, everyone's gonna be running around like things are normal when men are pretending to not be our only predators.

most of my family, cousins are women. They all pretty much are delaying marriage and focusing on careers. I don’t think they’re against marriage or men. Or hate men the way I do. But they love and enjoy their freedom