Hello ladies! So glad to have discovered this community! My question to you all is regarding other women - I notice that many of us women have bought into Liberal Feminism, casual sex, hookup culture etc... being "empowering" to women. As a 30 year old, my circle (including female friends) encourages "casual dating", casual sex, and rejects marriage, being serious about dating, and being up front about wanting a long term, real relationship. Now don't get me wrong - if a woman doesn't want to get married that is her choice and I respect it. However it seems like my liberal bubble pushes hookup culture and looks down on anything outside of that. I feel judged and I feel like I can't talk to anyone (outside of this group) about my wants and feelings. So having said all that - where do you ladies find FDS friendships?! And how do we get the word out about FDS? I felt like a crazy person before I found this site.
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I feel the same way. Its so hard to form female friendships with so many women being so thoroughly gaslit. I think its great they dont feel the need to marry but hookup culture is usually not a great deal for women. The sex alone is shitty and theres not much else to benefit from. I wish I could find a way to connect to like minded women IRL but it feels impossible. Only Pickme attitudes are freely communicated and any true feminism is blasted as toxic. Its honestly ridiculous.
Thank you! I will try this next time. I also tend to be very straight forward, which may put people off from the message. Thanks again for the tips. Hopefully we can make a change
Chances are they do think like you but won’t say it. I used to be quieter when it came to my FDS views. But multiple friends of mine started retweeting, reblogging and posting content on it. That then got me reading and studying. And of course asking my friends about it. I’ve written numerous college essays thanks to them.
Your best bet is lightly inputting it into conversation. I can guarantee there’s enough news articles to get the conversation started. Don’t thrust it on them or they’ll just clam up.
I know this sounds iffy, but Tumblr has a huge radical feminist community so you could check that out. I will admit the other side of Tumblr is relentless when it comes to that community. But you will see the community itself is supportive and brings a lot to the table with content. Two blogs from that site I like looking through for info is anti-porn-unicorn and kendallroy.
Good luck!
Hello! What you’ve said resonates with me, not necessarily in the sense that I feel like my peers look down on people who want LTRs (plenty of people I know are in or would like to be in LTRs/marriages), but definitely when it comes to things like porn, for example. I feel like almost all of the women I know (including myself until recent years) have been conditioned into thinking that porn and sex work is “sex positive”, and that it’s empowering to take part in this performative culture that does nothing for women and only caters to the male gaze. It’s rare to come across people who share similar FDS viewpoints like being anti porn, so I think I know how you feel! Luckily my best friend and I are pretty similar and we share the same views (although I haven’t been brave enough to mention FDS to her yet because I’m worried about how she’d initially perceive it - I thought it was horrible on first glance but kept reading and realised I was a massive Pickme and I’ve learnt so much from it!). I don’t have that many close female friends, which is something I’d like to change, but I also mix with pretty liberal circles so I think I may also struggle to find likeminded women. I hope we both manage to!