Does anyone else not want the responsibilities of dating and sex?

Yup. "I may be single but I'm not soft parenting an overgrown manchild by teaching him basic human decency and calling it a relationship"

This is how I feel too. I quit dating about 10 years ago because TBH it felt too much like hard work for very little reward. Now having said that, if the man of my dreams asked me out tomorrow, I'd probably say "Yes" but I'm not consciously looking for a man.

100%! These mofos aren't worth a drop of effort or taking hormone altering drugs that cause harm to our health and bodies. It's not like they put any effort into us emotionally or commitment wise. They're simply not worth all that at all. Now that I understand male nature much better after FDS I view it as not worth the effort or hurting my body over them. They wouldn't do the same for us, and they'd be voluntarily celibate too if they had a chance to get pregnant during sex.

I just finished reading "Marry Him: the case of settling for Mr. Good Enough" and it is the most pickme shit ever. She thinks that just because she is bitter and single in her middle age that other women should compromise their standards and get married so that they will not be bitter and alone too. I'm sorry but if you are bitter before marriage, you will only be MORE bitter after marriage.

A good relationship should feel relatively easy, and with someone that energises you. Someone that adds to your life, someone you don't have to nag to be a thoughtful, decent person.

Yes! I haven’t dated since my ex and I separated over a year and a half ago, and I never want to give up the freedom I’ve gained from leaving. I also think about this whenever I get my period. It’s always a disappointment now, especially if it’s early, because I no longer have to worry if I’m pregnant, which is awesome!

There’s a TikTok trend going on rn that I love with women dancing and twirling around in slow motion to a song from tangled with text that says something along the lines of how it feels to no longer live/deal with a man.

Yup, I'm cool hanging out with neices and nephews. My bills are paid, bought a house, hair looks good, nails done. No drama. Great women friends. Why bother with men? 2 years ago, dating guys, I was broke, hated my job, apartment. Why? Because i put waaaay too much focus on them, because they are energy vampires. They gave me nothing tangible in return, just breadcrumbs.

saaaaame sisteeeeeer!

i completely gave up on men because they are 1) not worth it and 2) dangerous in so many levels! even a HVM can get me pregnant unintentionally. if we are a sexually active passionate couple, i am at risk of being impregnated.

If you don’t want to be on birth control and never want children, I suggest looking into sterilization. You’d want a bilateral salpingectomy vs tubal ligation (removing the tubes vs tying the tubes)

Men do not love women. The only kind of "dating" I'm considering is sugaring, but even rich old men think a young woman asking for proper dates and money is some kind of evil matriachal scheme that doesn't even exist, because it fucking CAN'T in a patriarchy. I don't date for marriage, and definitely don't date for love with men. I've considered dating women, but I'm hetero-sick, and most women pick up on that, I think.

I've been struggling with this; and I don't want to write a thread about it because it could end up in me having to give my life story, but I'm in a dangerous position right now in my life where I might "have" to marry in order to not be homeless, which makes me very angry that I might not be able to "choose" to be without a man like you all have the right to. I would almost rather be homeless than to have to get married and be in a sexual relationship with a man I don't love. It's disgusting 😶

It's been a solid 2 years since I went on a date! I vetted him, but when the actual date happened he acted like fuckboy. Acted polite and cool for safety reasons and then delete/blocked when I got home.

Haven't even tried dating since but also I had been sick. Now, I haven't encountered anyone that's even remotely worth any of the massive risks of heartbreak, stds, pregnancy, abuse, etc. I'm good alone. I'm hardly attracted to any of the men I see "in the wild" even my lvm coworker was trash talking guys my age for smelling awful and dressing like hobos! (Goes to show men damn well KNOW how awful they are, they just don't care).

I had a massive crush on a dude who works near my workplace, so I often have to talk with him. But that fizzled - he was even flirting with me, coming to see me, and then would act lukewarm or sort of avoid me. So I lost interest. My other coworker picked up on it and was baffled as to hoe this dude hasn't asked me out yet and how he never even tried asking for my number either. You know it's bad when other lvm actually notice. Thankfully fds helped me get that crush under control enough and now it fizzled out finally. I allowed myself to be a little sad over the wasted potential - of course there's always the "we could have been" but I reframed it into "a hvm would have done this and that" and told myself that's what I want and why I won't settle.