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Honestly, I would like to know if anyone else feels as agitated as I do when men approach you and ask several questions all at once? My response is always “are you the feds or something?”
For example, I was out last night and a guy asked me where I was from and I responded. He then proceeded to ask two more questions and then inquired about the person I was with. I didn’t feel the need to answer so I stared at him and said “would you like my social security number too?” Of course, he didn’t like my response because I wasn’t answering his questions directly. Men always feel entitled to you.. it’s so frustrating. I don’t have to answer any of your questions or interact with you if I choose not to. This always happens when I’m out. Anywho, this man was upset for the rest of the night. He made statements that I didn’t have a personality and I had a NaStY aTiTuDe, blah blah blah.
This just ties to men not being able to handle rejection well. He stood there berating me and staring at me with disgust for the rest of the night. I completely ignored him but it’s like move away if you feel that I’m such a bitch.
Anyways, men believe that they should get their way with women and women should just be compliant. I just would like to know if anyone else feels this way about men approaching them and asking a shitload of meddlesome questions.
That guy was harassing you, jeez!
Men like him feel personally entitled to anything and everything about you.
Your response was great, by the way.
I wish for us all that in situations like this there are people around who speak up and have our backs too. Too much bystander syndrome let's these dudes get away with that routine.
Next time ask "are you writing a book or what?"
It’s nice to ask someone about themselves to get to know them, but if your sole way of interacting is question after question, it starts to feel like an interrogation. People like that are exhausting and it’s better to offend them and be left alone than to let them steal your energy all night.
Constantly... and I swear... the thing i hate the most is them starting with 'can i ask you a question?'. NO. NO YOU CAN NOT. That is NEVER followed by something respectful...its just a pretend 'nice'. They hate women. Full stop.
I usually make it fun and avoid the question and ask it right back to them. Some guys are socially retarded and don't know any better, but they'll get the hint if you just don't play along. I don't ever get defensive because men aren't worth my precious anger energy and if I'm getting frustrated, that means I'm not having fun, and if I'm not having fun or enjoying myself I don't need to be doing whatever I'm doing :)
I hate when men do this. Usually I ask them the exact same question back instead of answering. A lot of men love any opportunity to talk about themselves so they just run with it. If that doesn't work, I just give them a blank stare and say, 'Are you done interrogating me yet?' or 'You seem to be very interested in my personal life.'
This happened to me once with an "online friend." He asked me so many specific questions about my life but then said at the end that he's single because he had trust issues with women. Well then why are you trying to get to know a woman so badly since you don't trust them?
I felt like this the other night with the Uber driver. He picked me up at a resort hotel, where I was visiting a friend who works there. He asked, "Do you work at the hotel?" "No." "Were you having dinner there?"
"No." Finally, he realized that I was not going to offer info. I mean, come on, guy! You're a stranger, a man, and you want me to tell you where I work??? As it is, I always act like wherever I'm being dropped off is NOT where I live/am staying. I act like I'm not super sure which house it is. "I think that's the one. Their house has the yellow fence." And, I usually mention that I'm from out of town/don't live here.