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l don’t see the tangible benefits of marriage for women it seems like a terrible deal. Women take on almost every major risk in marriage and close relationships with men: abuse, murder, pregnancy, and the burden of household labor. According to the United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime (UNODC), a woman is killed by an intimate partner or family member every 11 minutes.
I understand that this is a dating community meant to help women find decent men. However, the reality is that when Women are in close proximity to Men it often comes with more risks than rewards. Women perform nearly three times more unpaid household and care work than men, according to UN Women (2022). Women also risk their lives during pregnancy and childbirth. According to the World Health Organization (WHO, 2023), an estimated 287,000 women die every year from complications related to pregnancy and childbirth. The burden of childcare also overwhelmingly falls on women, yet the children dont even take their mothers last name.
Marriage is a patriarchal institution that primarily benefits men, keeping them on LIFE SUPPORT at the expense of women. It’s sickening to see, how much Women get the bad end of the deal. Men only thrive at Women’s expense. Fuck that!
Yes, I fully plan on marrying. I will not be a forever gf without the legal financial protection of marriage ever again. Did it once and got completely screwed. Had I been married, I would have received alimony when scrote was sneaking around with girls (girls we both knew) behind my back and I left him over it.
Instead I received zero dollars from him (and he made well over 120,000 at the time) at 28 years old. I had $2,000 to my name at the end and had to start completely over. To this day, out shopping for furniture, I still feel that financial burn even though this was 11 years ago. It still makes me mad often.
No guy will ever have the chance to waste my time like that again and not have to pay up in the end when he acts like a NVM trash pile. No way.
Absolutely never the f again.
Trust me when I say... you are going to want to be compensated at the end for your wasted time and efforts. Courts are great about making it fair to where you will not be living in squalor when he ruins it and leaves you for dead. I literally built myself back up from nothing. I promise, you never want to be in this situation. Marriage offers that protection. And why play wifey without the ring or be a forever gf? That's embarrassing. If you're not dating to marry, these guys are going to toss you around like you're nothing because you have no standards set for them, anyway.
A part of me wants to get married, but I just can't get attracted to anyone. 😐
Since meeting someone worthy (as in I trust him with my life) isn't something I can make happen by planning - I can't exactly plan on getting married.
The mistake too many people make is putting marriage in their life plans, to the point that they would marry just about anyone to fulfill their plans. That's very dangerous, and a big part of the reason for those grim statistics.
So I don't plan on it, but I'm not closing the door on the possibility by saying I would absolutely never ever get married under any circumstances.
I’m not “planning to get married” at the moment and would be happily single for the rest of my life.
But if I date a man for more than one year (and therefore spend one year of my time, energy, and money to be with him), then I require financial and legal commitment on his end. I am in my late 30s and do not have the time or energy to invest in a man who does not invest in me.* He benefits from my presence whether or not he marries me. As an intimate partner, he can harm me whether or not he marries me.
I am too old to mess around in a relationship with no potential for payback. And yes, I view marriage as a type of payback—compensation and insurance—men need to give women for the relationship to be equitable. In the U.S. (and I daresay most other countries), a multi-year heterosexual relationship without marriage is usually not equitable for the woman.
*Of course, very young women (teens and early 20s) can afford to operate on a longer timeline.
The institution of marriage isn't bad. Being married to the wrong person is bad. Do you know who is the most vocal about not getting married? LOW VALUE MEN. AND THEY WILL GET MARRIED IF IT'S A PERSON WHO THEY THINK HIGHLY OF
VETTING helps you in this. BLAH BLAH BLAH WHAT IF HE TURNS OUT TO BE AN ASS LATER BLAH BLAH BLAH NOTHING IS 100% DROP THAT GUY AT THE FIRST RED FLAG
DOES HE DO HOUSEWORK? Drop him if he doesn't clean.
HOW DOES HE LOOK AFTER YOU WHEN YOU'RE SICK? DID HIS MOM ALWAYS DO EVERYTHING IN THE HOUSE?
WHEN YOU TAKE A VACATION TOGETHER DOES HE PLAN ANYTHING?
Marriage doesn't change a viable match into a non-viable match. IT'S UP TO YOU TO VET THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH
The biggest benefit is having a second income. In addition to that, he should add value to your life, and be tolerable to live with. If you can find this unicorn, then sure marriage makes sense.
No.
Marriage as a woman is just signing up for a lifetime of unpaid labor, emotional babysitting, and watching a man slowly turn into a useless, entitled roommate who still expects you to be grateful.
1 - Hope you enjoy nagging a grown-ass man to wipe the crumbs off the counter while he pouts like a toddler who just got his toy taken away.
2 - Get ready for a lifetime of half-assed, two-minute thrust sessions followed by him rolling over and snoring like a chainsaw.
3 - You wanted to relax? Too bad, you’re now in charge of his social calendar, meal planning, and remembering his mother’s birthday because apparently, men’s brains stop functioning once they put on a wedding ring.
4 - Oh, you thought he’d maintain the gym body he had when you met? Cute. Get ready for beer guts, unwashed hair, and toenails sharp enough to cut glass while you’re still expected to look like a Victoria’s Secret model.
5 - No matter how successful you are, people will still ask, “But who’s taking care of the kids?” while your husband gets promoted just for showing up to a meeting with a baby picture on his desk.
6 - You wanted an equal partnership? Guess what? You just became the CEO of Cleaning, Laundry, and Meal Prep Inc.—while he gets a standing ovation for doing the dishes one time.
7 - You will sacrifice your sleep, body, and sanity while he gets a pat on the back for changing one diaper and calling it “helping.”
8 - Your money? His money. His money? Also, his money. And when you get divorced (because you will), he’ll cry about paying alimony like you didn’t just spend years being his unpaid maid, chef, and secretary.
9 - You will beg for freedom while he suddenly becomes “father of the year” to avoid child support and fights to keep half your shit just to spite you.
10 - Marriage isn’t love—it’s a legal contract that turns you into a personal assistant with benefits. The only way to win? Don’t sign up in the first place.
I plan on getting married to someone likeminded as me. I don’t believe that marriage is a compromise. I hope to find someone who wants what I want.
Lol no. Everlasting love with a man is not real and the longer you are with them, the more they take you for granted or become tempted to cheat. You can have much more fun, get more gifts, benefits, and great sex (if thats what you're into), with shorter term boyfriends without sacrificing your independence, privacy and SANITY.
i wanted to have at least a DINK marriage but the more and more I observe my relationship with my dad I don't think I want any man in my life at all. what an awful existence wasted on a man.
no.