I've heard of people who met their SOs due to being set up by friends or family. Do HV people even set people they know up? In my experience, it's usually pick mes who think being single is one of the worst things that can happen to a woman who do this (and yes, the men they plan to introduce to the women are often not good on paper). Since most relationships fail and it's hard to know if a guy is truly HV or not, I'm not even sure setting others up is a good idea so I doubt I will do that. I don't want to play a role in ruining a woman's life by accidentally introducing her to a LVM.
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Ya this makes me laugh.
I’ve witnessed one of these set-ups: she was fabulous, he’s a gross, lazy loser. Of course she didn’t like him (!) and then the family got all offended about it because they think he’s great.
One of my friends keeps trying to convince me there are “TONS OF GOOD MEN,” so I ask her who? And to introduce me - not to date, just to actually see a HVM in real life! She is always empty handed and can’t think of even ONE GOOD MAN I could witness in the wild.
Most women I know (I’m older btw) think men suck, and they don’t know even one HVM to introduce anyone to. No setups happening around here 😵💫
I had a friend (who has been cut off now) who was obsessed with the idea of setting people up and kept trying to play matchmaker. At some point I introduced her and some of our other friends to one of my friends from childhood, and immediately it started conversations about which of our male friends (none of whom I’m friends with anymore) would be compatible with her. In retrospect it was pretty gross that that was a focus of her joining the friend group. There was one guy who was similar to her in some important ways, and they did end up dating for a while. They broke up though and apparently it was quite painful for both of them. I can imagine setting people up at some point in the future if my fiance has a single friend he vouches for and I have a friend who is looking and seems like she’d be into him but the odds of something like that happening just seem so low. In most cases I think I just wouldn’t want to carry the responsibility of something going wrong. However people do often meet through mutual friends and i imagine it’s probably a good way to meet. Even though the men aren’t completely vetted, they are pre-vetted in a way and much more likely to end up being high value if they are friends with your high value friends.