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I've been hesitating on posting this because tbh I feel a little ashamed about it and don't want scrotes creeping on this forum and seeing it, but whatever. So, I've been celibate for 3 years now. I haven't even spoken to a man in that long. I find this discouraging because I'd like to find a life partner, but I'm simply repulsed by men since following FDS.
This has also affected my ability to *ehem* take care of myself. I don't know how to get myself off anymore because I don't have any men to fantasize about, if that makes sense? I find myself sexually frustrated and I don't know what to do about it. I worry about what will happen if I do become involved with a man, and I simply don't know how to enjoy sex (though I don't see that happening any time soon). I feel ashamed about my lack of sex because I feel like women my age should be having lots of it. I guess it's starting to affect my self worth. There simply aren't any men I'm attracted to or worthy of my sexual attention, but that doesn't mean I don't still have physical needs. I've never been able to be attracted to man physically unless there is also an emotional component, so it's hard for me to get turned on simply by pictures or even fiction/erotica because I know it's not real. Any advice?
Apple's comment about mind going blank reminds me, there is something almost meditative about this. Even though it's not meditation exactly 😆
Approaching this as if you're trying to connect to a partner, only there is no actual partner there - that's not the best way to go.
Self-pleasure is about mind/body connection with yourself.
It's like that old relaxation exercise where you picture yourself in a tranquil stream, except put your mind to whatever gives you pleasure.
I'm picturing entire plotlines in my head, because that's pleasurable for me, but it doesn't necessarily have to be that complicated. It can be as simple or as complicated as you want to make it. Everyone's different. Go with what feels right to you. Give yourself the time and space to figure out what feels right.
My mind isn't blank on the way there, but it certainly is blank when I get myself there 🤣