Me, too. Also, if you've been able to successfully smoke meth everyday without it ruining your teeth, please share your story. Or if you ate 5,000 calories a day but stayed slim. Or jumped off the Empire State Building, landed on your feet, and kept walking.
This is gold, and was a much more articulate version of my reaction. I have met NOTHING but scrotes on OLD. The only halfway decent men I've ever met have been in the wild.
I would not normally link to reddit, but you need this. I went through my comment history to find this. You’re welcome. When you’re ready to stop trying to find glimmers of hope that OLD is worth the effort of panning for gold in a sewer, read these.
Harsh reality but facts are facts: men do not respect women on OLD. They see the women as desperate free prostitutes. Once women wake the fuck up to this reality and stop projecting the female perspective on OLD onto males, they will leave in droves. It is actively happening.
If you want to continue to delude yourself and self-sabotage, do you.
It used to confuse me so much when I’d be having a nice conversation with a man (I thought at least), and out of nowhere he’d ask me to come over to his place that evening and “hang out.” I’d think “What did I do or say to give him the idea that I’d be interested in that? I’ve pretty much been stereotypical boring Christian girl talking about wholesome things this whole time….” Once I even asked someone. I didn’t even get angry, I just asked them to tell me what I said that gave them the idea that I was interested in casual hook-ups with strangers, so I could avoid doing that in the future. He just played dumb of course and pretended that he just wanted to watch a movie with me.
It wasn’t until I found this forum and someone said that men basically see all women on dating apps as not much different than sex workers that it all made sense.
I think it's almost impossible to find a good guy OLD.
Every guy is looking for hookups. You really need to follow fds if you want even a chance of finding someone.
I've been off and on with dating apps. I'm talking YEARS. But I've met someone who seems to be hv. I always vet but he's good haha
We messaged on the app for about a week before he asked me on a date and he picked a SUPER nice place. He kept inviting me on nice dates after that.
We didn't kiss or hold hands or anything like that until he asked me to be his girlfriend and we didn't have sex until a few months in. His effort has never faded, it's been 9 months now.
He still always plans thoughtful dates, when we stay in, he still puts effort in, like he'll cook my favourite meal or something.
He took really good care of me after a car accident, where I couldn't do much for myself for a good while.
There's a lot of green flags with him. But I just got lucky, and of course used dating strategy.
From what I've learned by going on a ton of dates over the years:
IF YOU HAVE A BAD FIRST DATE. GHOST. HE WILL NOT GET BETTER.
Finding a hvm is luck no matter where you find him 🤷♀️
I've Actually met maybe 2 HVM from OLD, but they were a bit ugly and I'm fine being single for now, also this was before FDS and maybe they were total losers, I always had a thing for nerds (the smart kind not the vocaloid merch buying kind). Nerds are decent just make sure they're not incel loser adjacent, they tend to pass as HV when you're drunk at Chili's.
LOL if by some chance (highly doubtful) I ever do give OLD another try, I think I will steal your line and say “I really like nerds. The smart kind, not the Vocaloid merch buying kind.”
That comment about vocaloid buying nerds took me out!
My girlfriends were talking about the two types of nerdy guys we encounter: The smart nerd and the stupid nerd. The vocaloid nerd falls under stupid nerd territory. Red flag if he also games, owns a gaming chair, collects (hoards)gundams/figurines/dolls. In addition, if he plays card games, or collects cards as an adult…run!!!
On the other hand, you have the smart nerd that excels in school naturally. He does not partake in stupid nerd activities. He is effortlessly cool without even trying, self-confident, and generous. The most important thing is that, he doesn’t self-proclaim as a nerd.
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Me, too. Also, if you've been able to successfully smoke meth everyday without it ruining your teeth, please share your story. Or if you ate 5,000 calories a day but stayed slim. Or jumped off the Empire State Building, landed on your feet, and kept walking.
I would not normally link to reddit, but you need this. I went through my comment history to find this. You’re welcome. When you’re ready to stop trying to find glimmers of hope that OLD is worth the effort of panning for gold in a sewer, read these.
Harsh reality but facts are facts: men do not respect women on OLD. They see the women as desperate free prostitutes. Once women wake the fuck up to this reality and stop projecting the female perspective on OLD onto males, they will leave in droves. It is actively happening.
If you want to continue to delude yourself and self-sabotage, do you.
I think it's almost impossible to find a good guy OLD.
Every guy is looking for hookups. You really need to follow fds if you want even a chance of finding someone.
I've been off and on with dating apps. I'm talking YEARS. But I've met someone who seems to be hv. I always vet but he's good haha
We messaged on the app for about a week before he asked me on a date and he picked a SUPER nice place. He kept inviting me on nice dates after that.
We didn't kiss or hold hands or anything like that until he asked me to be his girlfriend and we didn't have sex until a few months in. His effort has never faded, it's been 9 months now.
He still always plans thoughtful dates, when we stay in, he still puts effort in, like he'll cook my favourite meal or something.
He took really good care of me after a car accident, where I couldn't do much for myself for a good while.
There's a lot of green flags with him. But I just got lucky, and of course used dating strategy.
From what I've learned by going on a ton of dates over the years:
IF YOU HAVE A BAD FIRST DATE. GHOST. HE WILL NOT GET BETTER.
Finding a hvm is luck no matter where you find him 🤷♀️
I've Actually met maybe 2 HVM from OLD, but they were a bit ugly and I'm fine being single for now, also this was before FDS and maybe they were total losers, I always had a thing for nerds (the smart kind not the vocaloid merch buying kind). Nerds are decent just make sure they're not incel loser adjacent, they tend to pass as HV when you're drunk at Chili's.