Dating men with kids

I have a divorced female friend who is my age (30s) and has a child with her ex-husband.

During the decade of their marriage, he abused her physically, verbally, and emotionally. He gave her every reason in the book to leave him, and she did.

You know what she told me? Sometimes, she wishes she were back with him and that they were still a “happy family”.

Just because a person found the courage to divorce their ex-spouse does not mean they don’t pine after their ex-spouse.

Of course a man will pine after the mother of his children. Avoid avoid avoid.

Don’t do it. They would never date you if you had kids.

Agree! I want to be the priority in my relationship. Any decent father would of course prioritize their child’s needs and happiness over mine. Any father who ISN’T doing that, is a bad father.. and why would I want to date someone’s deadbeat dad?

Plus, I have absolutely zero interest becoming a de facto parent for someone else’s child. No interest in being the guy’s replacement wife/caretaker of his child. You already know that most of the caretaking responsibilities end up going to whichever woman is in the household. I’m not going to play house with some guy’s mistake.

Men with kids that aren't mine is an automatic No. Either the mother got sick of his crap, or if she was the problem then he has poor judgment of character or if she died he'll never be over her and I'll compared to her FOREVER. I am the number 1 priority, and it's not fair to his kids to put me before them. He needs to be a father not worrying about a new love life. Next!