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We matched on Tinder last week and started chatting, he asked if im free for dinner and what day works for me and if I have any preference for restaurant. I reply on Tuesday and we found a day which was Thursday. He said he'll make the plans and let me know. We were speaking Tuesday on and off, also he didn't give any plans yet.
We talk a bit more and then Wednesday afternoon comes and he sent this . It seemed like he was trying to flake but being nice about it since he didn't exactly say which day to reschedule to lmao. The whole thing sounded sketchy
I was speaking to a friend and she said I should have replied like "hey no worries we can reschedule" and actually answer his questions. Idk I haven't used Tinder much before, was I too dry here?
He was most likely blowing you off. If he actually wanted to reschedule, he would provide a day on which he wants to reschedule. Also his trip was probably not last-minute, as he's implying. He's making it all seem plausible but it most likely is a lie. Is something preventing him from actually rescheduling on a day? No. If you do hear from him again, I recommend you blow him off last-minute. Better yet just block and delete.
Bonus unsolicited tip: Don't do hiiiii with an exclamation point. Don't be excited to hear from a stranger who just blew you off and deprioritized you, and don't show him that you're excited. Your friend is wrong and a pickme.
Is this a real question?
Mark my words, if you continue texting this man, he will string you along for months if not years and suck the life out of you.
You already texted too much. You should have blocked and deleted immediately when Wednesday rolled around, and he didn't make plans.
Read the handbook.
I don't think you should pay any mind to your friend, who cares what some guy you've never met thinks at this stage anyway 😂 he should be the one to reschedule not you!
This is a classic multi-dater. He had someone he is more interested in come up. He'll message you again if that falls through.
A better option popped up so he's blowing you off for her.
The less you write, the better. "Thanks for letting me know." is sufficient. If he honestly had a last minute work trip then he will contact you with a day/time to reschedule. If you don't hear from him by Tuesday, then block him. Also, I'd suggest you look into the "Wednesday Rule" in the FDS-recommended book The Rules.
You were too nice. I would have just said "yeah, let me know" and refused to respond further unless it was a message with a new time, date, and place. No message by Monday, unmatch
“I’ve had to fly to London this morning” What? Is he James Bond on a secret mission that requires rapid and sudden movement first thing in the morning? What a steaming pile of 💩
Block and delete.
Boy-bye! Keep a scrotation. This last minute blow off is rude and I would block and delete at the first sign of disrespect. If a scrote knows that you're willing to accept the bare minimum treatment, they're 100% going to try to keep it that way.
It's crazy to me how women are worried about not being nice enough, when these males don't GAF about you, at all. First of all, he is straight up lying. He never flew to London. But even giving him the benefit of the doubt, he told you AFTER he already left? ROFL and you are worried that YOU were not nice enough?? He's been rude AF to you and you are worrying that YOU are not nice enough?!
Well messaging after he's flown is just rude, how about "tomorrow (wednesday) I have to fly to London for work so will need to reschedule. Apologies for this late change, which evening works for you when I return on Monday".... I wouldn't be concerned with your reply, but his words are interesting... he sound a bit like he thinks he has all the control...
I think you're being too nice and that you should get off of Tinder lol
"nicer"?? you WERE nice
asking to reschedule is desperate and has no self respect. Leave it, if he truly sees you worth the effort he will message you back when he gets back to "lisbon" and propose a plan with you. Or maybe even sooner.
No, you shouldn’t have replied as your friend said! That’d be a pickme response.
Your response was good. Best to block/delete or at least unmatch straight after!
Tinder/OLD before meeting someone is best to be used as like a catalogue. If they don’t offer anything/a date that makes you feel some level of interest, just turn the page.
I'm wondering why he's gone for "work" over the weekend.
Notice how he slickly eliminated Friday and Saturday as options. This is sketchy. Curious about any updates from OP?