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I have a friend who used to be addicted to porn, he has been try to quit for good. he has slipped up a few times, but says it’s hard to quite completely. so do you think any man can quit porn 100%?
edit: thanks for all the comments, i think he might have an actual addiction and have a harder time quitting. in this case is it still possible to quit porn addiction cold turkey?
My boyfriend did it but he wasn't addicted (I mean... Every man is addicted but he wasn't pathological). He quit because he decided that he didn't want to support the industry anymore. It was his own decision and he never slipped once. I think there are 2 reasons why: 1) He didn't use to watch porn every day and he always watched "vanilla" stuff because he never cared about bdsm or anything like that. 2) He believes deeply that the porn industry is incredibly toxic for men but especially for women for all the reasons that we have always listed here on fds. This is the key. When you actually believe that by doing something you are harming people, you just stop doing it because you stop liking it. You stop wanting it. You don't want anything to do with it anymore.
I think they can, but they have to have a reason to motivate them that they is important and that they take seriously. For a few HV men, this is the porn-industry’s abuse of women, and how watching it makes you complicit. For a slightly larger of men, this is the fact that porn damages your mind and relationships with other people (which they have seen first hand). Most men trying to quit porn don’t have the respect for women and/or the critical thinking skills for these to be effective reasons, but they can still manage to be successful for health (porn causes low testosterone) or religious (ruin you relationship with god) reasons. But there has to be some kind of motivating factor that is real to them.
Yes. But most won't.
A few points:
I think they can quit, but...will they be able to fix the damage that it caused? to their brains? to their views on women, especially when being intimate with a woman? That requires self-reflection, reading and possibly therapy.
To quit successfully, they have to replace the bad habit with a good habit. I think that men sometimes turn to p*rn when they are bored and/or dealing with uncomfortable feelings (shame, sadness, helplessness, etc). If they want to quit, they have to be able to recognize and deal with those feelings in positive ways. Otherwise, it's just trying to quit with sheer willpower, and we all know how that goes.
Lastly, I think we need to encourage men to make amends for their past p*rn use. Amends include donating to women's organizations, speaking out about the harms of p*rn to friends and on social media (even anonymously is okay), and voicing support for women as humans with their own thoughts, feelings, dreams, etc.
I myself struggled with porn consumption once. I didnt have a full blown addiction but it was definitely close. It's difficult at first but they 100% can let it go. You need to limit all access to sexual content. I would even skip sexual scenes in movies and it really helped. Didnt think about porn for months, to the point that I forgot it existed. I would assume its the same with addictions (I have ADHD which makes me prone to addiction and I managed to move on from it)
I don't know why you would want to risk it- or reward a degenerate with your time?? "Is it possible that a man who was okay with exploiting women and girls, but ONLY stopped doing so when he realized it was hurting HIM to do so, can stop being a misogynistic piece of shit??" Jeez.
what about those men who watch amateur porn, like leaked real couples