I think women are capable of having platonic friendships with men but most men are not capable of platonic friendships with women. Any man who ever told me that he "just want to be friends", always tried to get into my pants at some point. This is why I don't do friendships with men anymore. I'm happy to have male aquaintances e.g. I'll make small talk to male neighbours or co-workers but that's all.
I don't think you can achieve the level of trust und platonic emotional intimacy needed for true friendship with a man, because 99,9% of them say they just want to be friends but would still fuck you if they had the chance. That just changes the dynamic.
You can be members of the same social group or larger friend circle and have fun together, but I think that's it. My friend group has a few men I like and have fun with (partners of friends etc.) but it's not comparable to friendships I have with women. It's a completely different dynamic. And if I'm being perfectly honest here...I think most of them would still have sex with me in the right circumstances (e.g. I'm pretty sure they wouldn't cheat on their current partners with me, but if we were both single and I offered they wouldn't say no).
Maybe if the man is 100% gay, but there's no guarantee. Plenty of men claim they're gay to lower women's guard.
I have men I call "friends", but the "friendship" means "sharing a hobby/activity together and no more than that" like gaming, volunteering, etc. I keep the convos limited to our shared activities.
Why would any woman want gay men as their friends? They casually throw misogynistic jokes because they think it's acceptable because they're gay, so to them, it doesn't "count" as misogyny.
I think men can be good family members and good acquaintances. Friendship with a man requires an emotional availability, strong boundaries, and maturity 90% of men lack. Not saying all men cuz I’ve met good ones who can just be friends, but holy shit I am in a male dominanted space where the ratio is basically (not kidding) 1:20 female:male. And no joke there’s TWO men who aren’t complete freaks for every 18 that are. And by that I mean we can have genuine convos and joke around without it being taken as me wanting to bang him and him becoming psychotic and creepy. That’s it.
Do I think if I showed interest in wanting to fuck those 2 dudes would agree? Yes. So… CAN we be friendly? Absolutely. But dudes will always want to smash and knowing that means there’s always an air of tension there that doesn’t exist when friends with other women. I think if men were less focused on their dicks we could have actual friendships, but that may never happen.
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May 03
From the woman's side, absolutely. But I've seen repeatedly that men almost always sexualize their female friends and will pounce as soon as an opportunity presents itself. Men ultimately just see us as sex objects.
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I think women are capable of having platonic friendships with men but most men are not capable of platonic friendships with women. Any man who ever told me that he "just want to be friends", always tried to get into my pants at some point. This is why I don't do friendships with men anymore. I'm happy to have male aquaintances e.g. I'll make small talk to male neighbours or co-workers but that's all.
No. They are predatory.
They want to kill each other half the time, too.
I don't think you can achieve the level of trust und platonic emotional intimacy needed for true friendship with a man, because 99,9% of them say they just want to be friends but would still fuck you if they had the chance. That just changes the dynamic.
You can be members of the same social group or larger friend circle and have fun together, but I think that's it. My friend group has a few men I like and have fun with (partners of friends etc.) but it's not comparable to friendships I have with women. It's a completely different dynamic. And if I'm being perfectly honest here...I think most of them would still have sex with me in the right circumstances (e.g. I'm pretty sure they wouldn't cheat on their current partners with me, but if we were both single and I offered they wouldn't say no).
Go to the FDS subreddit and there are a bunch of posts answering this question. It has been answered so many times.
Sure. Little Boys and little girls can be friends.
But men and women? No.
Maybe if the man is 100% gay, but there's no guarantee. Plenty of men claim they're gay to lower women's guard.
I have men I call "friends", but the "friendship" means "sharing a hobby/activity together and no more than that" like gaming, volunteering, etc. I keep the convos limited to our shared activities.
Men aren’t capable of being friends with women. Men don’t like women - men use women as appliances, and they don’t see us as people.
What men gain from relationships with women:
Status - women make men look good and seem safe; A man alone is suspect, a group of men is a threat. Add even one woman, and suddenly all is well
Emotional labor - we listen to their sob stories; we empathize and are caring. They aren’t capable of doing this for us
Sex - if they can get it
Domestic labor - women do all the mental load and the physical tasks in the home, and socially
Child bearing - so men can have a “legacy” - barf
Don’t give away your power to men. Do not waste your energy being friends with a parasite.
I think men can be good family members and good acquaintances. Friendship with a man requires an emotional availability, strong boundaries, and maturity 90% of men lack. Not saying all men cuz I’ve met good ones who can just be friends, but holy shit I am in a male dominanted space where the ratio is basically (not kidding) 1:20 female:male. And no joke there’s TWO men who aren’t complete freaks for every 18 that are. And by that I mean we can have genuine convos and joke around without it being taken as me wanting to bang him and him becoming psychotic and creepy. That’s it.
Do I think if I showed interest in wanting to fuck those 2 dudes would agree? Yes. So… CAN we be friendly? Absolutely. But dudes will always want to smash and knowing that means there’s always an air of tension there that doesn’t exist when friends with other women. I think if men were less focused on their dicks we could have actual friendships, but that may never happen.
From the woman's side, absolutely. But I've seen repeatedly that men almost always sexualize their female friends and will pounce as soon as an opportunity presents itself. Men ultimately just see us as sex objects.
So precious few that it's hardly worth trying. I think all of my male friends see me as a backup plan.
NO
I simply don’t know the answer to that question.