Breaking up over the phone

I would just text or ghost him, but if you have to call, be careful to not over-explain yourself. He will try to nitpick any reason you give him to make himself out to be a victim. Don't try to justify yourself by bringing up things he's done wrong, but don't try to coddle him either. His feelings don't matter and you don't owe him any explanation. Be ready to just have to hang up on him if he tries to keep you on the line longer, or have an excuse already ready for why you can't stick around. All you really need to say is "I'm not feeling this anymore, we should go our separate ways."

Don’t be afraid to hang up the phone. Scrotes will never accept the break up, and scream “JUST WAIT” and “JUST HOLD ON A MINUTE” and “Let’s talk about this” and “You’re not listening to me” until the end of time. Once you have said your piece, don’t feel obligated to take his verbal abuse. He will drag it on forever. If he’s cruel or disrespectful, annoying or whining, whatever it is, don’t be afraid to hang up on him, block, and delete.

UPDATE: It went ok. So far. Part of the methodology behind the phonecall was to stand firm on it being over and not give him an excuse to track me down for a face to face chat. I think I was as successful as I could be, but my gut tells me it's not over yet so I'm going to listen to that instinct and pay close attention to my personal safety the next while.

My tactic would be to get ready for that spooky last call by finding clarity in your words. What do you want to say? If you feel shaky, practice these sentences in front of a mirror until you sound neutral instead of anxious. And from his side, is there anything you would like to know before ending things?

I suppose the last question might not really be needed as the function of ‘talking it out’ probably makes sense only for break ups with men who are worth the time. I second what the other commenter said before me: You know that he is a ‘seriously LVM’ so find whatever is needed to rip it off quick and painlessly.

Other than that, my advice is to consider well what amount of talking is really needed. I have had to break off situations over phone and was led to talk beyond what was needed. It’s an opportunity to be manipulated or his chance to throw a last punch, and even if these don’t apply, the emotional anguish of it still ruins your day beyond what he should be worth. You’re anxious just thinking about it.

I wish you good luck and hope that you find quick relief in getting rid of him. 🩹

I wouldn’t say anything, I would just cut him off :)