Break my celibacy???

Unsure what to do been celibate for 3 years (I’ve only ever slept with 4 people) and im 28. I had an awful previous experience with a complete and utter loser and the way I was treated put me off for 3 years lol. Obviously a woman has needs and I have attended to them by myself but I have missed having sex especially good sex but I just don’t like one night stands or anything no judgment to those who do I just can’t personally handle it. Been talking to this guy for a few months and nothing has happened but I do want to sleep with him but unsure wether I’m ready for a relationship if I’m honest I’ve been out the game so long he actually does seem like a nice guy and hasn’t been weird like the past ones but you just never know do you. I don’t wanna make a mistake of sleeping with this guy and then regretting it after? What do you guys think I’m not sure what I want from him but part of me does want to sleep with him cause it’s been so long but I also don’t know if it’s worth breaking celibacy for help lol

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Unknown member

Oct 11

i think a man you don't know that well and with whom you don't have a serious relationship is too high a risk for too little benefit. there is the potential for good sex, but you can't know for sure before it happens. same goes for having a traumatic experience with a so called 'nice guy'.

i know it's hard to refrain from physical touch from a lover. going DIY is not the same thing... stay strong and wait until the desire wears off. you can keep vetting the guy. who knows? but don't let lust cloud your judgement. your safety comes first, then your satisfaction. men usually disappoint, so you're probably not missing out.

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Leveled Up

Oct 13

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I agree: men in bed usually disappoint. You’re not missing anything but a let-down

Also according to FDS you’d be lelevled up and wouldn’t sleep with any man for at least 3 months and not until you two are exclusive. Sounds like you just think he’s a “nice guy,” but is he earning your respect and trust? Is he taking you on nice dates? Is he investing in you? Or are you just horny.

Remember he will likely throw you away like a wet rag afterward, unless he has proven to be a HVM.

I personally wouldn’t allow a man into my sacred space, unless he’s worthy.

Unknown member

Oct 13

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thanks so much this is so true I’m gonna wait it out abit longer and as you said not let lust cloud my judgment because now a few days have passed I completely agree with you!

It just is so hard when quite a few years have passed and sometimes I miss physically being with someone but I agree with what you say it’s usually not what it cracks up to appear anyway and men don’t know what they’re even doing half the time anyway lol thanks girl x

Unknown member

Oct 20

If you just want a fling, I'd consider not telling him anything about yourself, so when it's time to bolt, you can. Use protection, especially if you're in a red state, including plan B.

Don't sleep with anyone in your friends circle, because men will pretend to be sex positive, then try to demonize you for doing something all animals do. Even adults are weird about women having sex, like it's a crime.

He probably won't be good in bed, because most men aren't, so you'll have to try to vet his sexual skills.

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