Boyfriend broke up with me because I did not cook for him.

It's ok to feel hurt. You've just experienced a break-up so feeling hurt is normal. Having said that, it's better to know now that your boyfriend wanted a bang maid, then to find out after years of marriage. It sounds like you were doing a lot for your boyfriend. I suggest you take some of that time and effort and spend it on yourself e.g. making yourself nice meals, having a nice bath or even just relax and watch a feel good movie. Going forward, don't cook, clean or do laundry for boyfriends. You shouldn't even be thinking of doing stuff like that for men unless you're married (and even then there are limits).

Omg. Omg. Omg. I’m angry for you, but you have every right to feel sad right now. I cannot believe that asshole had the nerve to demand you cook for him. He really thought you were auditioning to be his slave. Thank god he’s gone! Truly imagine what a marriage and family would have looked like with this man, if you want children. He would have been a tyrant in your home. He would have been dictator. He’s looking for a servant not a wife and mother for his children. I feel very sorry for the pick me that’s gonna end up with him. He’ll suck out her soul.

My ex was mad at me when I didn't have the energy to cook or didn't cook his favorite meal, too (and a million other things that meant I wasn't a good female appliance to him). He wouldn't break up with me over it but only because he was a coward. I can tell you that this relationship sucked the life out of me. You do NOT want any more of this. Yes, there have been good times, but those really pale in comparison to the bad times. You can have the good times without the abuse, I know it's possible because I'm currently living this reality. All the shit I romanticized in my previous relationship is now the default, and I realized how it only seemed special back then because it was propped up against a backdrop of drama and mistreatment. I now have this gut check that when I think that a guy is too good for me, I don't deserve him, I have to be grateful for every little thing he does... then it means I'm being manipulated to tolerate disrespect just so he seems like a better man than he actually is. I ironically never questioned the amazingness of my ex even though he was such an asshole. I've since learned that a healthy relationship is almost boring by contrast, you don't idolize your partner, you don't think you have to be eternally grateful to them or that there will never be anyone better. You feel stable and calm. Obsessive thoughts and intense abandonment fears are a red flag to me now.

This whole situation sounds shady af. Who expects to have dinner ready at 1:30 AM? Why the sudden break up?! Did he even care about that before? What kind of work is he doing that expects him to stay out so late anyway??

Nahhh I call B.S. Sounds like he's been cheating and is projecting his own insecurities onto you about not being a "perfect trad partner" This is an attempt to neg you and create a convinent excuse for a break up. That way he can attempt to crawl back and have the advantage.

Hopefully I'm wrong and he didn't spread anything.

I'd suggest getting tested asap just to be safe.

I can’t imagine you miss this pile of shit, rather, I think you miss the dignity and self esteem you sacrificed to be with him and the fantasy of the life you would have had if you had retained that self worth with a man that respected you for your boundaries and high standards.

Reminds me of that dude who came home from a 15 hour shift and records his wife to shame her for not having dinner ready. eventhough she does everything for him except cooking.

Anyway you shouldn't mourn losing a big toddler, a grown ass man would drive to a restaurant and get something along the way or send a text asking if you can order a pizza instead of burndening you more. Men who are this fickle think that you'll be begging for his return or be sad without him, prove him wrong just pretend like you were never in a relationship so that he can be salty about it.

Even if they guy is shitty like this one, it's ok and normal to feel sad. Take time for yourself.

I'm sure you had good time with him as well , even when we're lvm we have fond memories because they're not bad 24/7.

What a dumb loser. He just wantd a free mommy bang maid. Now you can celebrate hard!

Be gentle with yourself. Let yourself feel the hurt, it is ok. It is also a small win that you did not cry today!

Count yourself lucky he showed his true colours! Yes the trash took himself out. You are not his maid, and that is what you did, you stood up for yourself, and that is commendable.

Does anyone actually follow FDS?

No wife benefits when you're just a girlfriend. You were acting like a free live In housekeeper.

It might be a good idea for you to ask yourself why you stayed for nine months with this person.

You will happy again, just so, so much more. Hang in there ❤️

You are not his maid my love. Let him go.

You are not crying for him, you are mourning the dream your perfect love. He actually freed you to pursue your highest love, be grateful. Make a list of all the qualities you saw in him and wish them for your perfect love and leave the rest. Girl you're on your way to your perfect match, don't leave any aul rude fool get you. He prob had another woman and didn't have the guts to admit it if that's his paltry reason for breaking up with a QUEEN 👑

Hold on. You're going to go from sad to mad...at which point you can use that anger (and, if you're anything like me, shame for putting up with such a loser) to grow. Just wait for it, the anger is right around the corner 🧡

Did he also expect you to split finances, bills, rent, morgage 50/50?

I'm angry to hear it took him nine months to show you, beyond a doubt, that all he wanted was a bangmaid. Nine months is a long time.

But at least this happened before you married him. I know you're sad, but now you're free from this misogynistic bag of trash.

Omg you are so lucky rn he sounds horrible. I dont even understand how he did this. Did he just tell you, well there is no food so I am out? Like how??

Take your time to heal now, once you feel better you can assess what went wrong and what red flags you missed. We are here for you!